"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So, the difference between friend-zone and bae-zone is timing?

DiegoSantori

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After reading many opinions and watching a couple of videos, you simply have to be assertive from the very beginning and make out as soon as possible, otherwise she loses respect for you and doesn't see you as man anymore.

So, basically, it's all about timing. Right? I'm of two minds about this. I mean, would a woman really lose respect for George Clooney if he didn't try to kiss her on the first date? Wouldn't she still want him after 3 or 4 weeks even though he doesn't make approaches on her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Konada

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Personally I think why guys end up in the friendzone is because their actions are incongruent with their intentions. Believe me women can sniff this shvt out so fvcking easy its shocking.

If you want to fvck this girl, show it through your actions. Many guys are stuck in the mindset 'Oh if I do this will she reject me? What if I get slapped? etc.' All this time when the dude is mentally masturbating in his head, he's giving body language cues that he isn't really 'himself'. Most girls would be turned-off by this and hence the 'friendzone'.
 

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Partially. The other part is how interested and attracted she is to you.

You can't multiply or amplify a nonexistent interest level.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Partially. The other part is how interested and attracted she is to you.

You can't multiply or amplify a nonexistent interest level.
this
 

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If you do everything else right you DONT need to kiss on the first date. If you have the right body language , do a lot of kino, assert yourself as a dominant male then that will keep her interested.

I personally find the idea of kissing on the first date repulsive ...lool wtf , I don't know where your lips have been before the date.

I can recall ONLY kissing girls I had a relationship with. Plates and one night stands NEVER .
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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