"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So the BPD wants to move in with me and is trying to manipulate me into letting her.

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You don't want to break up with her - it's not bad enough for you yet. You haven't fallen hard enough yet. No one here can tell you what you should do in this situation without you taking the opposite approach. That's fine. No one is in your shoes so they don't FULLY understand what you're going through. They are right though; there is NOT a happy ending in all of this.



You will get your heart broken. That's a f*cking fact.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
I used that exact line last time, and then she said "you really don't want to be with me any more?"

And I cracked and ended back with her.
SO now she probably does not believe that what you say is what you mean.

YOu cannot be diplomatic during a breakup with a BPD woman because of her abandonment horror . You either tell her goodbye and just walk away, OR you ask her to marry you because you were "meant to be together" and then watch her bolt out of your world .
BPD woman are compulsive liars and most believe that the rest of the world are just as deceptive as they are, so whatever you say will not be believed. The only way is to cut her off and then defend yourself when she tries her 'hoover' tactics.

MIght take a while to see the back of her.
 

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Nut up or shut up.

To quote Tom Leykis, "Dump that b!tch!"
 

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I think YOU are the BPD who wants attention, and are trying to manipulate US to get it. With 10,000 BPD threads on this site, you've already seen time and time again how this story ends.
 
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Haha get this, she texted me today that I am scared of commitment. I told her it's all on her for banging the town while she was with me in the beginning and damaged my faith in her.

She said she is done with me, I told her good luck go back to dating losers.

LOL she did the dirty work for me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The most funny thing is, when we had the exchange earlier she tried to blame me for this. I told her it's all on her because of her shady behavior in the beginning and she DENIED the shady behavior even though she ALREADY ADMITTED all of it to me a couple months ago!

How funny is that? Denying something she already admitted. That was a classic!
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
How should I go about dumping her over this? We have gotten pretty close, so I have to be tactful about the dump.

How about this:

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You
 
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Slickster said:
How about this:

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You

Good, she did it for me. Now I have the green light to sarge. I'm not faded by this. She will be back too, or she will try at least.

She goes from wanting to marry me and move in with me yesterday, to dumping me because I said no.

Complete BPD.

I'm happy. Profile is going back up. Time to meet new women.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
She goes from wanting to marry me and move in with me yesterday, to dumping me because I said no.

Complete BPD.

Of course! You saying no was another way of saying it's over.

I don't know if she's BPD but she is smart enough not to hang around in a situation that was going nowhere.

Next time you find a sex partner don't let it get the relationship stage unless that is what you want.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Slickster said:
Of course! You saying no was another way of saying it's over.

I don't know if she's BPD but she is smart enough not to hang around in a situation that was going nowhere.

Next time you find a sex partner don't let it get the relationship stage unless that is what you want.

No she is not smart. It could go somewhere, but she is trying to RUSH the relationship into cohabitation and MARRIAGE. A woman who is rushing these things is another huge red flag.

Let her rush some other chump into misery. She has proven to me she can be faithful for a whopping 2 months. NEXT. This woman is terrible for me. When she is around I drink and smoke she is killing me literally.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
Good, she did it for me. Now I have the green light to sarge. I'm not faded by this. She will be back too, or she will try at least.

Time to meet new women.
Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon:


That's why you're the king of BPD relationships. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin'.


You are a role model for everyone here. The way you handle these BPD chicks should be an inspiration and a benchmark for the handling of these women. A true artist.

Your next BPD chick has no idea what she's in for. If you crush her like you crushed this one she's in for a rude awakening. I kinda feel sorry for her. :yes:





Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon:


That's why you're the king of BPD relationships. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin'.


You are a role model for everyone here. The way you handle these BPD chicks should be an inspiration and a benchmark for the handling of these women. A true artist.

Your next BPD chick has no idea what she's in for. If you crush her like you crushed this one she's in for a rude awakening. I kinda feel sorry for her. :yes:





Cheers!
It true! You make them dump you before you have to dump them and it saves alot of headache. This really is an art!

This dumping me thing is another manipulation attempt. If I call her right now and tell her to move in with me, she would say YES!!

That is what she wants and is hoping I get heartbroken and tell her to move in.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
It true! You make them dump you before you have to dump them and it saves alot of headache. This really is an art!

This dumping me thing is another manipulation attempt. If I call her right now and tell her to move in with me, she would say YES!!

That is what she wants and is hoping I get heartbroken and tell her to move in.
My guess is that one of you will contact the other and agree to "try again" or some such . She will toss her pvssy at you and you will believe that you "really understand her, deep down" and so the dance will continue until she cheats again or you feel pissed again because she is dissing you.

And this tread will ultimately run to 1000 replies ....:crazy: .
 
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My guess is that one of you will contact the other and agree to "try again" or some such . She will toss her pvssy at you and you will believe that you "really understand her, deep down" and so the dance will continue until she cheats again or you feel pissed again because she is dissing you.

And this tread will ultimately run to 1000 replies ....:crazy: .

Ofcourse she will be back! I realize now she is manufacturing this dumping of me because her other manipulations haven't worked.

This is the ultimate manipulation! She knows if I really love her, I will cave in to her demands! I could get her to come back right now if I told her what she wants to hear.

I am going to miss her. This is a tough one. You're right, we will probably be back together soon. I am weak as hell! I'm already getting the urge to tell her what she wants to hear.

Her sick game is working!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Now this is starting to sound like My Name Is Nobody. I don't know why I didn't see this before.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
Her sick game is working!
Hang tough, Larry.:yes:

Remember, you're the king of BPD relationships. :rockon:

Don't let all those years of studying and playing them like a fiddle go to waste.


Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
Hang tough, Larry.:yes:

Remember, you're the king of BPD relationships. :rockon:

Don't let all those years of studying and playing them like a fiddle go to waste.


Cheers!
My a$$ has been the fiddle most of the time. I have something she wants now though. She is doing whatever it takes to try and make me cave. She is being ruthless about it.
 

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romangod, I believe your sarcasm is lost on dear Larry.
 

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Call him by his real name: My Name is Nobody.

You should be banned AGAIN for repeating AND bragging about making the same mistakes over and over again. You're a fool.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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