Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So the BPD wants to move in with me and is trying to manipulate me into letting her.

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You don't want to break up with her - it's not bad enough for you yet. You haven't fallen hard enough yet. No one here can tell you what you should do in this situation without you taking the opposite approach. That's fine. No one is in your shoes so they don't FULLY understand what you're going through. They are right though; there is NOT a happy ending in all of this.



You will get your heart broken. That's a f*cking fact.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
I used that exact line last time, and then she said "you really don't want to be with me any more?"

And I cracked and ended back with her.
SO now she probably does not believe that what you say is what you mean.

YOu cannot be diplomatic during a breakup with a BPD woman because of her abandonment horror . You either tell her goodbye and just walk away, OR you ask her to marry you because you were "meant to be together" and then watch her bolt out of your world .
BPD woman are compulsive liars and most believe that the rest of the world are just as deceptive as they are, so whatever you say will not be believed. The only way is to cut her off and then defend yourself when she tries her 'hoover' tactics.

MIght take a while to see the back of her.
 

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Nut up or shut up.

To quote Tom Leykis, "Dump that b!tch!"
 

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I think YOU are the BPD who wants attention, and are trying to manipulate US to get it. With 10,000 BPD threads on this site, you've already seen time and time again how this story ends.
 
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Haha get this, she texted me today that I am scared of commitment. I told her it's all on her for banging the town while she was with me in the beginning and damaged my faith in her.

She said she is done with me, I told her good luck go back to dating losers.

LOL she did the dirty work for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The most funny thing is, when we had the exchange earlier she tried to blame me for this. I told her it's all on her because of her shady behavior in the beginning and she DENIED the shady behavior even though she ALREADY ADMITTED all of it to me a couple months ago!

How funny is that? Denying something she already admitted. That was a classic!
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
How should I go about dumping her over this? We have gotten pretty close, so I have to be tactful about the dump.

How about this:

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You
 
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Slickster said:
How about this:

Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You

Good, she did it for me. Now I have the green light to sarge. I'm not faded by this. She will be back too, or she will try at least.

She goes from wanting to marry me and move in with me yesterday, to dumping me because I said no.

Complete BPD.

I'm happy. Profile is going back up. Time to meet new women.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
She goes from wanting to marry me and move in with me yesterday, to dumping me because I said no.

Complete BPD.

Of course! You saying no was another way of saying it's over.

I don't know if she's BPD but she is smart enough not to hang around in a situation that was going nowhere.

Next time you find a sex partner don't let it get the relationship stage unless that is what you want.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Slickster said:
Of course! You saying no was another way of saying it's over.

I don't know if she's BPD but she is smart enough not to hang around in a situation that was going nowhere.

Next time you find a sex partner don't let it get the relationship stage unless that is what you want.

No she is not smart. It could go somewhere, but she is trying to RUSH the relationship into cohabitation and MARRIAGE. A woman who is rushing these things is another huge red flag.

Let her rush some other chump into misery. She has proven to me she can be faithful for a whopping 2 months. NEXT. This woman is terrible for me. When she is around I drink and smoke she is killing me literally.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
Good, she did it for me. Now I have the green light to sarge. I'm not faded by this. She will be back too, or she will try at least.

Time to meet new women.
Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon:


That's why you're the king of BPD relationships. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin'.


You are a role model for everyone here. The way you handle these BPD chicks should be an inspiration and a benchmark for the handling of these women. A true artist.

Your next BPD chick has no idea what she's in for. If you crush her like you crushed this one she's in for a rude awakening. I kinda feel sorry for her. :yes:





Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon: Larry! :rockon:


That's why you're the king of BPD relationships. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin'.


You are a role model for everyone here. The way you handle these BPD chicks should be an inspiration and a benchmark for the handling of these women. A true artist.

Your next BPD chick has no idea what she's in for. If you crush her like you crushed this one she's in for a rude awakening. I kinda feel sorry for her. :yes:





Cheers!
It true! You make them dump you before you have to dump them and it saves alot of headache. This really is an art!

This dumping me thing is another manipulation attempt. If I call her right now and tell her to move in with me, she would say YES!!

That is what she wants and is hoping I get heartbroken and tell her to move in.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
It true! You make them dump you before you have to dump them and it saves alot of headache. This really is an art!

This dumping me thing is another manipulation attempt. If I call her right now and tell her to move in with me, she would say YES!!

That is what she wants and is hoping I get heartbroken and tell her to move in.
My guess is that one of you will contact the other and agree to "try again" or some such . She will toss her pvssy at you and you will believe that you "really understand her, deep down" and so the dance will continue until she cheats again or you feel pissed again because she is dissing you.

And this tread will ultimately run to 1000 replies ....:crazy: .
 
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My guess is that one of you will contact the other and agree to "try again" or some such . She will toss her pvssy at you and you will believe that you "really understand her, deep down" and so the dance will continue until she cheats again or you feel pissed again because she is dissing you.

And this tread will ultimately run to 1000 replies ....:crazy: .

Ofcourse she will be back! I realize now she is manufacturing this dumping of me because her other manipulations haven't worked.

This is the ultimate manipulation! She knows if I really love her, I will cave in to her demands! I could get her to come back right now if I told her what she wants to hear.

I am going to miss her. This is a tough one. You're right, we will probably be back together soon. I am weak as hell! I'm already getting the urge to tell her what she wants to hear.

Her sick game is working!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Now this is starting to sound like My Name Is Nobody. I don't know why I didn't see this before.
 

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Leisure Suit Larry said:
Her sick game is working!
Hang tough, Larry.:yes:

Remember, you're the king of BPD relationships. :rockon:

Don't let all those years of studying and playing them like a fiddle go to waste.


Cheers!
 
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romangod said:
Hang tough, Larry.:yes:

Remember, you're the king of BPD relationships. :rockon:

Don't let all those years of studying and playing them like a fiddle go to waste.


Cheers!
My a$$ has been the fiddle most of the time. I have something she wants now though. She is doing whatever it takes to try and make me cave. She is being ruthless about it.
 

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romangod, I believe your sarcasm is lost on dear Larry.
 

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Call him by his real name: My Name is Nobody.

You should be banned AGAIN for repeating AND bragging about making the same mistakes over and over again. You're a fool.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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