"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So Suave is good but there is better

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'd recommend subscribing to email newsletters by dating gurus. Bristollair has some good stuff though, I'll give you that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hehe, that is funny! Mr MightyMate's petnickname was Jelly Bean:p

Now that I look back, he was hard up on what most women look for from a DJ. LTR's!!!!!

hehe, he so wanted people to view him as the king of LTR's.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Did anyone notice that there were more threads in their Body Gripes section than their Fitness/Nutrition section? in addition to that, their Rate Me section has even more threads.

Kinda makes you go, Hmmmmmmmm........ ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Did anyone notice that there were more threads in their Body Gripes section than their Fitness/Nutrition section? in addition to that, their Rate Me section has even more threads.

Kinda makes you go, Hmmmmmmmm........ ;)
And I thought it was just me when I noticed that the majority of gym-goers are male. Are women just lazy when it comes to working out?
 

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They're at a different gym, not all girls are looking to become buff, they want to be slender.

I've got chicks in my dance classes, in my tai chi class, and whenever I show up to karate, there they are. I see them jogging at six in the morning, and I see them in the sports section at work. There's girls that have sex to lose weight, and there are girls who play sports...

Don't only look towards YOUR gym for where the girls are SRT8UP
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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