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Now I've seen it all.
Now I've seen it all.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
scrouds said:I need a tshirt:
"I (heart) skinny chicks"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Okay, there are my thoughts. I don't mean to be a d8ck, but please make sure you know what you're talking about! It's okay to have to look something up! A wise man is wise because he knows his limits!Pathgen said:I think you are missing an essential part of the argument. Fat exists to keep people alive. True, fat is used as a storage facility. Every single person has a little bit of fat in them, no matter how hard they try to get rid of it. Without fat, we would die.You were right that in the old days fat was more attractive, but the truth of the matter is that this was not only because starvation would kill the poor people. The people who could manage their fat better would survive. The trick was not "managing" your fat. Did they have treadmills back in those days? No. Being fat was an attractive quality because it showed that they had access to a surplus of food. It was not simply "managing their fat" like we do today, it was having enough food to produce fat!
In the modern world if you have money you can get food. There is the problem with the obesity issue. It may not always be the food you want but living in the modern world we never run out of energy to supply our bodies with. True, this is what I was trying to reach, but you said it a much more straight-forward fashion. Kudos. More calories intaken than used= weight gain. Simple Biology.
However for people with no food the ability to store fat and use it wisely to keep your body alive could give you an extra couple of days over somebody who does not have that evolutionary ability. If you were lost in the desert with no food you could burn off the fat you stored to keep you going. Making Fat a Desirable Trait. Like I said, every human has fat- some just have more than others. And for your desert example, there is a flip side to that. While a heavyset person might outlast a regular person in the race for food (but by only a bit), they would lose in the water race! Fat (like blubber) is a very good insulator. It will keep the extra heat in their body. (Ever notice how fat people tend to sweat a lot and relatively easily? This is why). Since their body has more heat, they will try and cool off by sweating more. More sweating=less water. Bye, bye fat kid.
Now in todays society, like I stated earlier, if you have money chances are you can get food for energy. So here comes the interesting part. Skinny chicks are more desirable to us because our brains are programmed that way. Ever since you were born you have been reinforced that skinny was more attractive. True again. Society has programmed us to think that skinnier=more attractive. But this has lead to conditions like anorexia and bulimia. And for quite a while, we had a big problem with these two conditions. That's why I think we are trying to find a good balance of the two- someone who can manage themselves (skinny) but knows not to go over the edge (fat).
That is how powerful our brains are. Examples of this can be seen in like how you said being fat used to be more attractive or how the Japanese used to **** up young girls feet because they thought that was more attractive. I agree that our brains are powerful- mind over matter!
In the future if there is a food shortage, which could very well happen, what may happen is all the people with the desirable metabolism now will die out. Those with the ability to store and manipulate fat will have the advantage. I'm sorry, but no. Absolutely not. This one, you're completely wrong. I don't know why you said this, but you're completely wrong. Let me explain. Firstly, what makes a person gain weight? Your answer should be: when the calories intanken are more than the calories used. And to do so, you normally have to eat a fair amount of food (as in the 3k+ range). And what does eating 3k calories require? A larger appetite. And if there is a food shortage, food will be rationed evenly between all people. This means that less food will be given to each person. So if we can only eat 1.8k worth of a calories a day, then who will it impact the most? The guy eating 2k calories, or the guy eating 3k calories? Your body will have two choices- reduce appetite and weight to survive, or suffer. Fat people will the ones hit the HARDEST by a food shortage, not vice versa.
And do you even know what metabolism means? Your metabolism is your ability to digest (aka break down) your food. People with a high metabolism are skinner because they digest more of their food to use in various tasks in the body, so therefore, less is stored as fat!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nowadays we like to see good skeletal definition.iqqi said:Back in the day, the fertility goddesses were pudgy. I hear that was "ideal".
I love that. If you have the body to pull it off, it's a huge DHV with the right amount of ****yness. If you're generally a fun guy, rocking that shirt while you're in great shape is money.Rollo Tomassi said:Heheh,..
There's a guy at my gym (who's in peak condition) who wears this shirt:
"Maybe if you dropped a few"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.