"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So my friend didn't introduce me

NotaNewbie

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So me and my friend was just hanging out chilling, and talking. It started to get late so I decided to go home, I didn't have a subway fare that day so my friend was going to swipe me in with his fare he decided he wanted to wait for the subway with me because it was so late. His friend (The HB) came into the station to take the subway too (but she was going the other direction), and they started having small talk like i wasn't there.. She then said "Well i have to get going what are you doing here?" and thats when i had my only chance to say something and i said "he's here waiting with me for the train" with a smile and she just said "oh" and proceeded to get into the station. So my question is.. Next time I'm in a situation like this what is the proper way to introduce my and self and make small talk?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alkali

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It sounded like you were purposely excluded.

They probably have a thing for one another.

Don't worry about it, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
 

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Alkali said:
It sounded like you were purposely excluded.

They probably have a thing for one another.
They hardly know each other.. They know each other from one of their friend that introduce them so its not like they know each other.. and i know for a fact she doesn't have a thing for him. The only reason i cant get her out of my head is because shes a 8 and i cant believe i let that get away..
 

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"Hi, I'm NotaNewbie" Anyone?

But yeah I know what you mean, I hate friends who are gay like that.
 

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Eh its all right. Friends are supposed to piss you off every now and then. Otherwise they're not your friend.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hey wasup, Im swifty.

seeings as my friend isn't gonna introduce me here *shoot him a glance* I'll have to do it myself *smile*

repeat again "Im swifty". she'll probably laugh.

and then lata

"yeah yeah, he was just bein a ****. I think he has like the hots for you or somethin"

that should blow him out of the water and bingo your in. but if its a good friend i wouldn't.
 

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swifTy said:
hey wasup, Im swifty.

seeings as my friend isn't gonna introduce me here *shoot him a glance* I'll have to do it myself *smile*

repeat again "Im swifty". she'll probably laugh.

and then lata

"yeah yeah, he was just bein a ****. I think he has like the hots for you or somethin"

that should blow him out of the water and bingo your in. but if its a good friend i wouldn't.
Mad rep points for this one. :up:

You show confidence and make your friend look like an insecure little creep. As they say all is fair in love and war.
 
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You can't make every moment a sosuave encounter. :rolleyes:
 

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Some friends never introduce me to their female friends either - only if we hangout with them. But if they just bump into each other somewhere and small talk they usually don't introduce me, so I guess I should get some new friends. :whistle:

I say live with it. Some people are like that. You can easily just chime in and introduce yourself as I usually do. Just go ahead when you get the chance take their hand and shake it 'hey I'm smooth, I'm ____'s friend."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fred Da Head

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Whatever happened to bros before a gardening instrument?

By just being a little b***h to your friend because he may have slighted you, like swifTy suggested, it just shows YOU as an insecure little boy who wants approval so bad you're willing to stab your friend/buddy in the back to get it.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
You can't make every moment a sosuave encounter. :rolleyes:
Agree. Certain things need not be discuss on SS.
 

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i had that happen to me recently...so i just started asking her questions and talking to her without even asking for her name. I wasnt really interested so i didnt care enough to get her name besides it seemed like he had the hots for her so that made it a even a bigger no no. I follow "bros before hoes" especially if the girl isnt anything special.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Most people these days are borderline socially retarded. Too much time spent on the internet.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
Whatever happened to bros before a gardening instrument?

By just being a little b***h to your friend because he may have slighted you, like swifTy suggested, it just shows YOU as an insecure little boy who wants approval so bad you're willing to stab your friend/buddy in the back to get it.
An insecure little boy that will be nailing your friend tonight.... :crackup:

Seriously i'm having less and less male friends these days. They're just not as good as pvssy is to me. The better i get the more guys start hating... because they see the attention i get from women and my guy friends, well **** half em just want to use me for girls.

I have my buddies that i would never do that to, but that's a small few.
 
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