"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So my date with the 23 y/o milf was weird

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It turned out that she had a boyfriend (baby's daddy) she lived with and seemed to intend on staying with. It'd be cool to help her cheat, but the town they're is known to be a ****ty place full of crooks/drug dealers, so I feel like I missed out on nothing.

Anyways, a couple hours later, I go to a party and am feeling pretty good. I chat up the nearest cutie that I ask for a cigarette and boom we end up talking for 2 hours (not my style, I typically try to get decent kino going within 10-15 min) and then make out a few times. Unfortunately, she's from NYU and lives like 2 hours away from me, so nothing is likely to come out of this. If this party were closer to my crib, a friend's place, or hosted at a mutual male friend's place, I would've got it done last night. Also, she's friends with all the hot chicks I wanna bang (they're all 8's and 9's, she's a 7), so is this gonna end up hurting me if nothing happens or if I actually do end banging her?

Also, should you make out with the chick the first time you meet her? I'm starting to think 'no.' I've gotten laid more times when it's just a short kiss right before you leave rather than a few 2-5 minute long make-out sessions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blueline said:
It turned out that she had a boyfriend (baby's daddy) she lived with and seemed to intend on staying with. It'd be cool to help her cheat, but the town they're is known to be a ****ty place full of crooks/drug dealers, so I feel like I missed out on nothing.

Anyways, a couple hours later, I go to a party and am feeling pretty good. I chat up the nearest cutie that I ask for a cigarette and boom we end up talking for 2 hours (not my style, I typically try to get decent kino going within 10-15 min) and then make out a few times. Unfortunately, she's from NYU and lives like 2 hours away from me, so nothing is likely to come out of this. If this party were closer to my crib, a friend's place, or hosted at a mutual male friend's place, I would've got it done last night. Also, she's friends with all the hot chicks I wanna bang (they're all 8's and 9's, she's a 7), so is this gonna end up hurting me if nothing happens or if I actually do end banging her?

Also, should you make out with the chick the first time you meet her? I'm starting to think 'no.' I've gotten laid more times when it's just a short kiss right before you leave rather than a few 2-5 minute long make-out sessions.
Blueline let me guess you met the "grenade" on pof?

Dude you dodged a bullet, I have nothing positive to say about single mothers (espeically as of late) my experiences hasn't been that good with them.

Sounds to me you dodged the bullet

In terms of your make out theory I agree with you to an extend, make outs are great for "flash game" but it all depends on your connection with a girl. To a lot of girls making out in the club isn't a big deal.

In terms of the chick you met, don't put to much energy into it, keep her number around if you ever head her way or she comes back your way that's one you can get up with (hang out)

peace
 

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Solomon said:
Blueline let me guess you met the "grenade" on pof?

Dude you dodged a bullet, I have nothing positive to say about single mothers (espeically as of late) my experiences hasn't been that good with them.

Sounds to me you dodged the bullet

In terms of your make out theory I agree with you to an extend, make outs are great for "flash game" but it all depends on your connection with a girl. To a lot of girls making out in the club isn't a big deal.

In terms of the chick you met, don't put to much energy into it, keep her number around if you ever head her way or she comes back your way that's one you can get up with (hang out)

peace
I actually met the single mom at a bar around here. She basically approached me.

Yeah, I met the girl I made out with last night at a house party. Kissed her in front of her two BFFs with no discretion. I think she really liked me, given how we could talk for like two hours without getting massively sexual. She texted me this afternoon saying to give her a call if I'm ever in the New York area.

So ya, that is good. Onto the next girls. The one thing that sucks is I totally want to bang her bff's friends. I think one or two of them likes me and they're totally banging.
 
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