"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So much attention from a girl, then i get flaked on

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Yeah so ive been talking to this girl for a couple of months... showed lots of interest such as running up to me in hall, randomly looking for me in day, kino, flirting back, iming me calling me (she asked for both my im then later asked for my number)

So then i call her during the week to chill over the weekend, she doesnt know if she can yet.. thats cool

Then saturday i still dont have an answer so i call.. no answer. Wait awhile still no call back so then i just text her, and get texted back saying oh sorry forgot i had a party to go to.

Now its been a week or 2 and i stopped really talking to her. She still tried to talk to me for awhile , but now its just like awkward silences or just a hey when we see eachother. wtf happened?

edit: also.. shes never actually said LJBF. so im really unsure of what to do. ignore her? or keep trying
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Nothing is wrong with the friend zone as long as you are not attached.
 

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Jack McCrack said:
Nothing is wrong with the friend zone as long as you are not attached.
but i mean i actually wanted her.. is it too late now?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yeah talking to a girl for months without actually making a move puts you at a big disadvantage. you defintely do tend to get the boot onto the friend list when you dont show clear intentions. im curious to know what made you wait
 

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dtrg said:
yeah talking to a girl for months without actually making a move puts you at a big disadvantage. you defintely do tend to get the boot onto the friend list when you dont show clear intentions. im curious to know what made you wait
i was showing her i liked her when we first met.. then she got a boyfriend and we stayed friends.. then they broke up and im guessing she was on the rebound for a new boyfriend for awhile.. and i STILL waited :mad: . and when i finally asked her to chill it was probably too late :cry:
 

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I am in the same situation here.... again. I have been talking to a girl for a couple of months now..and i think i have reached the friendzone..
my experience.. yeah its too late... so don't waste you're time when you meet a nice girl.. just make a move (take action) ...
 

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i.. then she got a boyfriend and we stayed friends.. :cry:
that proved right there that u waited too long. she might have liked u, but got fed up with waiting for u to make your move, so then she found a guy that would. same thing happened to me not to long ago.

i wouldnt next her just yet. try again for a date. just dont wait too long to show your intentions. she could have really forgoten she had a party to go to, which is not flaking, just other plans. but if this behavior continues, move on.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
that proved right there that u waited too long. she might have liked u, but got fed up with waiting for u to make your move, so then she found a guy that would. same thing happened to me not to long ago.

i wouldnt next her just yet. try again for a date. just dont wait too long to show your intentions. she could have really forgoten she had a party to go to, which is not flaking, just other plans. but if this behavior continues, move on.
i guess it wouldnt hurt to give it one last chance

edit: actually **** it im moving on
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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