"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So much attention from a girl, then i get flaked on

Thai Foon

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Yeah so ive been talking to this girl for a couple of months... showed lots of interest such as running up to me in hall, randomly looking for me in day, kino, flirting back, iming me calling me (she asked for both my im then later asked for my number)

So then i call her during the week to chill over the weekend, she doesnt know if she can yet.. thats cool

Then saturday i still dont have an answer so i call.. no answer. Wait awhile still no call back so then i just text her, and get texted back saying oh sorry forgot i had a party to go to.

Now its been a week or 2 and i stopped really talking to her. She still tried to talk to me for awhile , but now its just like awkward silences or just a hey when we see eachother. wtf happened?

edit: also.. shes never actually said LJBF. so im really unsure of what to do. ignore her? or keep trying
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nothing is wrong with the friend zone as long as you are not attached.
 

Thai Foon

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Jack McCrack said:
Nothing is wrong with the friend zone as long as you are not attached.
but i mean i actually wanted her.. is it too late now?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yeah talking to a girl for months without actually making a move puts you at a big disadvantage. you defintely do tend to get the boot onto the friend list when you dont show clear intentions. im curious to know what made you wait
 

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dtrg said:
yeah talking to a girl for months without actually making a move puts you at a big disadvantage. you defintely do tend to get the boot onto the friend list when you dont show clear intentions. im curious to know what made you wait
i was showing her i liked her when we first met.. then she got a boyfriend and we stayed friends.. then they broke up and im guessing she was on the rebound for a new boyfriend for awhile.. and i STILL waited :mad: . and when i finally asked her to chill it was probably too late :cry:
 

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I am in the same situation here.... again. I have been talking to a girl for a couple of months now..and i think i have reached the friendzone..
my experience.. yeah its too late... so don't waste you're time when you meet a nice girl.. just make a move (take action) ...
 

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Thai Foon said:
i.. then she got a boyfriend and we stayed friends.. :cry:
that proved right there that u waited too long. she might have liked u, but got fed up with waiting for u to make your move, so then she found a guy that would. same thing happened to me not to long ago.

i wouldnt next her just yet. try again for a date. just dont wait too long to show your intentions. she could have really forgoten she had a party to go to, which is not flaking, just other plans. but if this behavior continues, move on.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
that proved right there that u waited too long. she might have liked u, but got fed up with waiting for u to make your move, so then she found a guy that would. same thing happened to me not to long ago.

i wouldnt next her just yet. try again for a date. just dont wait too long to show your intentions. she could have really forgoten she had a party to go to, which is not flaking, just other plans. but if this behavior continues, move on.
i guess it wouldnt hurt to give it one last chance

edit: actually **** it im moving on
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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