"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So many excuses she gives, how to respond?

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meathead said:
Oh well. I'm still waiting for her to make contact. As before, we'll see what happens.
Don't wait for her to contact you, just put her on the backburner and get on with life. Keep yourself occupied, hang out with friends, hit the gym, indulge yourself in your hobbies and interests.

Just forget about her completely. What the situation with you two at the moment, meathead?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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perseverance said:
Don't wait for her to contact you, just put her on the backburner and get on with life. Keep yourself occupied, hang out with friends, hit the gym, indulge yourself in your hobbies and interests.

Just forget about her completely. What the situation with you two at the moment, meathead?

its hard or 90% of men to do that due to few options and high desperation levels.. sad times now..
 
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DonGorgon said:
its hard or 90% of men to do that due to few options and high desperation levels.. sad times now..
If I can manage it Don then there's no reason why other men cannot. There is no such thing as "I can't" in my vocabulary just "I can".
 

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the trick is to not fall back into your old interest-killing ways if she comes around you again in the future

don't be so available and don't reward her with access to your valuable time and attention when she hasn't earned it
 
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