"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So I've been blind, stupid, immature...not a DJ

mpimpin

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Some of you will probably remember my marriage threads etc. Well I was totally swept up in my old oneitis who I somehow actually gave it a shot with after four years.

Now I'm probably going to get torn apart by most of you, but I'm not a KJ and I won't hide the truth from you. We all fvck up sometimes.

I was actually considering getting married. I was smart enough not to go through with proposing just yet though. I realized my education, business, etc. didn't need to be flipped upside down for this girl. So I suppose I did something smart.

She was crazy. Everytime I gave advice to a friend or offered a friend some part time work for a night she would be on my case about it. Always made me feel in adequate. Didn't give me what I needed in any form especially physically (hence the marriage rush she kept promising to turn her body over to her husband. She is extremely religious)

Every rule I ever set for myself I broke. What do I have to show for it? Nothing. Haven't even learned anything new that I didn't learn going through this years ago. Just a refresher lesson though, which I suppose is good in a way.

I wouldn't back down once about giving a friend a job for ONE night nothing permanent and she ended things.

I know its time to rebuild. It's rough and been a rough week. Any words of encouragement would be appreciated.

Thanks SS and Good luck to everyone in their own lives.

Edit* I have made two dates with two girls from high school I ran into at the mall and Wal-mart so I am back on the horse. Just feeling really beaten and tired...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's times in your life where you're gonna have to make some large changes. What I've done is keep telling myself "I've been through worse and have made it through, and I'll fvcking do it again!" Remain as positive as you can throughout the whole thing, and you'll pull through with flying colors.

A woman should compliment her man. A woman who is a burden or tears away at him is not a compliment - she's a fvcking useless b1tch. One thing that I've lived by since I learned the ways of the DJ is that a woman should add to your overall happiness. If she starts taking away from your overall happiness, it's time to get rid of her.
 

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Good work realizing the situation... some dudes might go to her, crying to see her again. Remember to make a list of everything you're looking for in a girl, and screen them rigorously! When I started to compromise on who I dated, my life got turned upside down by girls, tainted by them almost. High standards, accept nothing less.

Something tells me this won't be the last time she tries to talk to you.

mpimpin said:
We all fvck up sometimes.
You more than most :D

later bud
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't understand, why did it bother her so much when you gave your friends work? I mean if you guys were tight for money and you were just giving it away to friends, then maybe... but if they're working for it, what's the problem?

Crazy indeed.
 

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SmoothTalker said:
I don't understand, why did it bother her so much when you gave your friends work? I mean if you guys were tight for money and you were just giving it away to friends, then maybe... but if they're working for it, what's the problem?

Crazy indeed.

Exactly! His best friend actually just gave him a couple hundred dollars and his girlfriend gave him money. He ended up not even needing it. I provided him with work and I needed help at the time.

Very crazy
 

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Hey mpimpin it's going to be rough for sure but at least she threw herself out of your life. Girls that damaged are never worth it.

So get back on it, we need reading material ! :D
Stay strong bro.
 
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