"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So is this why you dont take advice from girls?

irocknike23

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I have a very close chick friend who has been my friend for 5 years now. We are good friends and no, before you guys ask I am not stuck in the friendzone, this chick is like my sister. But she does have a lot of dudes after her, if I had to rate her she would easily be a 9.3.


Last night she called me up because she was flipping out because the dude that she cheated with on her BF was making threats that he was gona tell the world. After about an hour convo I calmed her down and basically told her he was bluffing(which he was). But then we got to talking and I asked her what she saw in the dude she cheated with

HERE IS WHERE MONTHS OF READING THE DJ BIBLE CONTRADICTED EVERYTHING I LEARNED:

She told me that the reason she cheated with this other dude because he would "listen to her problems", "he was a sweetheart", "he was kind and nice and overall a good dude".......but later she goes on to tell me that eventually after 2 months into banging this dude she find out he is "a jerk and an a-hole", "too ****y and has too many girls that want him"


WTF! What my chick friend told me is the opposite of everything I learned around here and the DJ bible for years.

Basically she said....nice guys who listens to all my problems=dude I want to bang regardless if I have BF. Once I find out he is a jerk and an a-hole I was turned off by this and did not want anything to do with him.

This confuses the hell out of me and this is coming straight from the girls mouth. And the way she made this dude sound at first, he sounded like a lot of you who come in here and post your classic nice guy story which turns into failure...


But then I remembered that someone around here told me to never take advice from girls...is this why?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ringleader41

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She probably thought he was hot and thats all he needed to be. This site was made for ugly guys to have a chance at getting laid.
 

Wolfbones

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That dude's GOTTA be good looking.

"too ****y and has too many girls that want him"
This should back up my response. I'm sure many girls would never want an ugly dude.
 

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Backwards rationalizing. If "in the beginning" he was kind and good, that justifies your good girl pal falling for him in the first place. NOT ONLY THAT BUT IT JUSTIFIES HER CHEATING ON HER BF. It wasn't with a "jerk" it was with a nice guy who was stepping up when her BF wasn't. So it's perfectly okay what she did lol

In reality, he was probably a "jerk" and an "*******" from the jump. That's why she branch-swung.

So yep good title. This is why we don't go to girls for advice.
 

Plutoman

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NewAndImproved said:
Backwards rationalizing. If "in the beginning" he was kind and good, that justifies your good girl pal falling for him in the first place. NOT ONLY THAT BUT IT JUSTIFIES HER CHEATING ON HER BF. It wasn't with a "jerk" it was with a nice guy who was stepping up when her BF wasn't. So it's perfectly okay what she did lol

In reality, he was probably a "jerk" and an "*******" from the jump. That's why she branch-swung.

So yep good title. This is why we don't go to girls for advice.
This, basically. He was all good and great - rationalizing WHY she liked him. She liked him because he was ****y, arrogant, a bit of an *******, etc. She rationalizes all of it (though he probably listed for a minute and shut her down) by saying he's nice and great and way better than her boyfriend.

When the type of guy he was comes back to bite her, all of a sudden it's being rationalized in a different manner.

So yeah, don't take advice from a woman. Very few understand their own inner workings. It's all about the internal hamster running in the background.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MikeOck

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You never take advice from women because they have no idea what they (or other women) really want. They will tell you that they want a sweet, romantic guy who will chase after them and shower them with love and attention while listening to all of their problems.

The crazy thing is, they aren't lying, they actually THINK that they want those things because society tells them they should want those things and it makes logical sense to want them. The problem is, those things don't create ATTRACTION. In fact, the opposite creates and holds attraction, as you've read in the DJ Bible and from countless other men throughout the world.

Your friend was attracted to this guy because he was a jerk, an a-hole, ****y and especially because there were many other women that want him. He always was those things, and it turned her on. Period.
 

irocknike23

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MikeOck said:
You never take advice from women because they have no idea what they (or other women) really want. They will tell you that they want a sweet, romantic guy who will chase after them and shower them with love and attention while listening to all of their problems.

The crazy thing is, they aren't lying, they actually THINK that they want those things because society tells them they should want those things and it makes logical sense to want them. The problem is, those things don't create ATTRACTION. In fact, the opposite creates and holds attraction, as you've read in the DJ Bible and from countless other men throughout the world.

Your friend was attracted to this guy because he was a jerk, an a-hole, ****y and especially because there were many other women that want him. He always was those things, and it turned her on. Period.
Well said dude
 

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Hind sight is always 20/20. It's like slipping in a ditch, getting wet and muddy, all your friends laughing at you, and the next day you go "pfft! I meant to do that"
 

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MikeOck said:
You never take advice from women because they have no idea what they (or other women) really want. They will tell you that they want a sweet, romantic guy who will chase after them and shower them with love and attention while listening to all of their problems.

The crazy thing is, they aren't lying, they actually THINK that they want those things because society tells them they should want those things and it makes logical sense to want them. The problem is, those things don't create ATTRACTION. In fact, the opposite creates and holds attraction, as you've read in the DJ Bible and from countless other men throughout the world.

Your friend was attracted to this guy because he was a jerk, an a-hole, ****y and especially because there were many other women that want him. He always was those things, and it turned her on. Period.
Women know what they want. Don't kid yourself. They want an attractive muscle bound jerk who is also a millionaire! Women aren't logical, when they sound as such, they're parroting the media.

Ask women for advice and she'll give beta male qualities. But we men know that women truly desire the alphas and SETTLE for the betas.
 

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irocknike23 said:
but later she goes on to tell me that eventually after 2 months into banging this dude she find out he is "a jerk and an a-hole", "too ****y and has too many girls that want him"
Doesn't take 2 months of banging to realize the guy's an a-hole. He either kicked her to the curb or they're still banging low-key. Women tell on themselves if you know what to listen for
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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