"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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so is this a good thing?

stoner1129

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well me, my gf, and some other guy were hanging out at a wrestling tournament, and one of my gfs friends comes over and starts talking to her. i'm sitting behind all three of them and while they're talking the other guy starts like poking her and being his stupid self in a funny way, and my gfs friend tell me that she would be jealous if she was me. she then asks me if i was jealous and i told her no that i didn't really care, so that ended up bothering my gf. well she told my friend that it bothered her that i didn't care but she never told me that, so did i do the right thing in saying that i didn't care or should i have showed that i did care or said that i did??

really it didn't bother me but i'm jw.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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stoner1129

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yeah forget that last part about me not caring, but was it right to say that, i know she's worried now that i'm going to leave or something kind of because of that, and no i didn't say it make here scared i just thought that it would show that i'm not insecure or something, so was it the right thing to do or say?
 

War Against Betaism

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You should have cared a little bit. Being a little bit jealous isn't a bad thing. While it's a good thing to show you're not insecure, not caring at all kind of puts you in that "player" mold.
 
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