So I'm Losing My Virginity...

[Philosopher]

On Thursday. A good friend confessed she's always wanted me and wants to take my virginity(sounds good, I know). Here's the issue. We made out on Monday, and when she pulled my **** out, I couldn't get it up. She blamed the heat but I think that's bull. So we're "hanging out" Thursday.

Tips on getting it up?
Tips on lasting?
Tips on not coming out like a retard?
Advice in general?

 

[SmoothTalker]

Hmm, your friend either really wants you or is really slutty..

First, use a condom.

You had trouble getting it up because you were nervous, its very common for guys just starting out. It will go away with time.

It might actually help you in the lasting longer department though, my first time I went for like half an hour because I was, I guess too distracted by the whole experience to focus on cumming.

In general, relax, you won't be a stud the first time no matter what. To make it better for both, lots of foreplay is in order. If you can't get it up on Thursday, maybe just spend some naked time with her making out, oral, etc, until you're ready.

Have fun and don't take it to seriously, odds are you'll end up wondering what all the hype was about. But don't worry, it gets better with experience.

 

[Philosopher]

Thank you very much.

I know for a fact that she's only had sex with one other dude, so I think I'm clear on the slut department.

Any ideas on how to get rid of the nervousness? Mindsets?

Condoms:check

Sweet

I'm walking in expecting to be terrible and am pretty good at foreplay so that should work out

Good to know

Once again:thank you

Keep the tips coming, folks. 66 views and only 1 reply?

 

[Bawb14]

I think above all, relax. I know it sounds stupid and impossible, but just tellyourself... ahhh relax. If u need to close your eyes for a second and just chillll. It will help a lot, in all of the departments!:cheer:

 

[SmoothTalker]

For me the nervousness just went away as I gained more experience, so I'm not sure if there's any tricks you can use.

Maybe think about the fact that she obviously wants you since it was her idea. One thing that will definitely help if possible is the right setting. You don't need candles or slow music (leave that for when you get the hang of the basics lol), just somewhere comfortable and private where you can know that you won't be disturbed.

 

[lordson]

planned sex always brings up the issue of performance anxiety, spontaneous sex i find is so much better

 

[wolf116]

Don't let her pull your c0ck out. Take control and do all the things that turn you on example, run your hands over her body and breasts, take her cloths off, get her to bend over in a short skirt etc. Just relax and don't try to hide an exection when you get one.

ps. these tips do not apply to guys without performance anxiety, I personally love it when she takes control for a change, but when you're new it can be a shock.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Lol what, no lay report?

 

[Philosopher]

Lol absolute failure. Short version: Endless foreplay. She blew me, so I know I could get it up easy enough, but we were at the beach at like 3 am(COLD), so I couldn't KEEP it up long enough to actually ****. I fingered her for a solid 30 minutes though, so I don't think she was that bummed.

Failure none the less. Couldn't keep it up long enough to get **** done. This is honestly the most demasculating week I've ever had.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Hey, nothing wrong with getting just head. Try somewhere actually comfortable like a bedroom next time - save the adventurous outdoor stuff for later.

 

[Philosopher]

as soon as we can find an unguarded house, we will lol. Thank you though.