"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I'm Losing My Virginity...

Philosopher

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On Thursday. A good friend confessed she's always wanted me and wants to take my virginity(sounds good, I know). Here's the issue. We made out on Monday, and when she pulled my **** out, I couldn't get it up. She blamed the heat but I think that's bull. So we're "hanging out" Thursday.

Tips on getting it up?
Tips on lasting?
Tips on not coming out like a retard?
Advice in general?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SmoothTalker

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Hmm, your friend either really wants you or is really slutty..

First, use a condom.

You had trouble getting it up because you were nervous, its very common for guys just starting out. It will go away with time.

It might actually help you in the lasting longer department though, my first time I went for like half an hour because I was, I guess too distracted by the whole experience to focus on cumming.

In general, relax, you won't be a stud the first time no matter what. To make it better for both, lots of foreplay is in order. If you can't get it up on Thursday, maybe just spend some naked time with her making out, oral, etc, until you're ready.

Have fun and don't take it to seriously, odds are you'll end up wondering what all the hype was about. But don't worry, it gets better with experience.
 

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Thank you very much.

I know for a fact that she's only had sex with one other dude, so I think I'm clear on the slut department.

Any ideas on how to get rid of the nervousness? Mindsets?

Condoms:check

Sweet

I'm walking in expecting to be terrible and am pretty good at foreplay so that should work out

Good to know

Once again:thank you

Keep the tips coming, folks. 66 views and only 1 reply?
 

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I think above all, relax. I know it sounds stupid and impossible, but just tellyourself... ahhh relax. If u need to close your eyes for a second and just chillll. It will help a lot, in all of the departments!:cheer:
 

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For me the nervousness just went away as I gained more experience, so I'm not sure if there's any tricks you can use.

Maybe think about the fact that she obviously wants you since it was her idea. One thing that will definitely help if possible is the right setting. You don't need candles or slow music (leave that for when you get the hang of the basics lol), just somewhere comfortable and private where you can know that you won't be disturbed.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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planned sex always brings up the issue of performance anxiety, spontaneous sex i find is so much better
 

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Don't let her pull your c0ck out. Take control and do all the things that turn you on example, run your hands over her body and breasts, take her cloths off, get her to bend over in a short skirt etc. Just relax and don't try to hide an exection when you get one.

ps. these tips do not apply to guys without performance anxiety, I personally love it when she takes control for a change, but when you're new it can be a shock.
 

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Lol absolute failure. Short version: Endless foreplay. She blew me, so I know I could get it up easy enough, but we were at the beach at like 3 am(COLD), so I couldn't KEEP it up long enough to actually ****. I fingered her for a solid 30 minutes though, so I don't think she was that bummed.

Failure none the less. Couldn't keep it up long enough to get **** done. This is honestly the most demasculating week I've ever had.
 

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Hey, nothing wrong with getting just head. Try somewhere actually comfortable like a bedroom next time - save the adventurous outdoor stuff for later.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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