"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So, I'm about to ask this girl out.

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And I don't plan on doing so again if she either says no or flakes. What's the best way to communicate that?

I think it's going to break down one of two ways: she's either an attention ***** who gets off on the fact that I dig her, or she is actually interested but really shy about the whole thing.


She came to see me play a gig tonight, but left towards the end. Apparently I almost made her cry. that's why. :confused:



anyway. advice, fellas?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Made her cry? Please explain.
 

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Nonono, it was the music that almost made her cry. Apparently, she was moved.
 

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and you weren't moved to give her the c0ck? :eek:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hahaha, man.

I don't even know why, but this b!tch is kind of intimidating. Not many girls make me think twice about sh*t I say, but she does. I don't get it. it sucks.

So, I wanna take this girl out and get over this nonsense.
 

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Yuma said:
Hahaha, man.

I don't even know why, but this b!tch is kind of intimidating. Not many girls make me think twice about sh*t I say, but she does. I don't get it. it sucks.

So, I wanna take this girl out and get over this nonsense.
A lot of guys can be suave with the average girl, but then when one "special" one comes along their brains melt. Just don't let her get in your head, she's just a normal chick like any other. What happens is that since you think so highly of her, you put way too much stock in what happens, what she thinks of you, etc. This makes you second guess everything you're saying and doing. Don't let it. Be Yuma uncensored.
 

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
A lot of guys can be suave with the average girl, but then when one "special" one comes along their brains melt. Just don't let her get in your head, she's just a normal chick like any other. What happens is that since you think so highly of her, you put way too much stock in what happens, what she thinks of you, etc. This makes you second guess everything you're saying and doing. Don't let it. Be Yuma uncensored.

Dig.

Thanks, bro. I need to start doing this sh*t the ol' fashioned way. And have some worry free fun this time. :D Thanks a million.
 
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