"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So i went on a date and she was crazy!

summersky

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Hey people,

i met a girl on social media, we chatted and i called her one time. On the phone she seemed really nice and we had a good conversation. Few days later we had a date.
I was playful, flirty, teased her a lot but also had deep conversations with her. She didnt feel well about my teasing and was reacting in a suprised way. Sometimes she laughed but it was different. All the other girls i dated liked it.. I touched her hand and her back and it was clear that she also didnt like it a lot.

She was checking her phone really often, was picky about the food, asked me to take pictures of her with her phone. She even wanted to check out new clothes and go to a store while we were walking through town. I made fun out of it and teased her about it. Told her like she is behanving like a small litte girl. But later i was really pissed off about her behavior and told her in a calm way that i dont like it. Thats it.

So im asking myself, did i do something wrong? Or maybe she wasnt interested at all and just wanted to ignore me. I would treat people with respect, even if im not interested.. Maybe she is just a selfish and rude person? She told me all her ex boyfriends were really nice guys and treated her like a princess, did everything for her..

What do you think?

Regards
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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piranha45

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It's obvious from the details you've mentioned that she had 0 interest in you by the time of the date. She may have had interest in you before that, but you killed it off by blabbering too much.

So she just wanted to use you as a meal ticket.

The next time a woman is absorbed in her phone and seems to take your presence for granted, walk away delete her number and never look back.

You have a complete lack of game; you don't understand how to behave towards women in the dominant masculine fashion that compels them submit.

If you want to improve,, you need to set aside time to internalize the articles here: http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

If you don't want to improve, you're going to continue wasting your time money and effort on women as you did in this situation.

Here is a parting nugget directly applicable to you:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2268396&postcount=2
 

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I'm curious as to why her behavior in person was dramatically different than what you gathered by text/call. Was there something(s) you should have picked up on?
 

summersky

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I don't really know. On the phone She was more down to Earth and polite. During the date she told me all her ex boyfriends were nice guys that did everything for her.. She was dominant and difficult and it was difficult to take the lead. Im asking myself if its just because she wasnt interested at all? Do Women got two different personalities they use? Or was She just a mess..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GS750

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Best not to overanalyze. Maybe you two just didn't click.
 

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Go for a couple of drinks in the evening, within 30-60 minutes you'll know whether you both feel it, cost £12 or $20

Never ever do a daytime lunch date or a meal as a first date, unless you've already got naked with her in the past.
 
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