"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So..I was watching a boxing match.. and...

Single4Life

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So, I was watching an older boxing match, between Roy Jones Jr and Vinny Pazienza. Then something became a little more clear to me.


Do you think Roy Jones Jr or Vinny Pazienza give a **** about learning tools, tricks, and tips... trying to learn "the game" with women? Do you think Slash or Keith Richards gave a **** about trying to figure out why women do ****? Do you think any successful man ever gave a flying **** what women wanted? Nope.

and, still, they have their pick of women. The most beautiful women, they all fight for the chance to be with these guys.

So, what are we really doing here? We are trying to improve ourselves and understand women and ourselves, to improve our flaws and mistakes, to play "the game" and get laid/find a wife/girlfriends. Perhaps we are wasting our time.

They are all ways of masking a problem you think you have. You know what I think the most attractive thing to a woman is? An accomplished man. That **** trumps everything. A woman sees that in a man, and she already can put 2+2 together. You can provide a very good nest for her babies. You have a lot of confidence. The **** goes on.

Perhaps, what we SHOULD be doing, is 100% working on ourselves, to become successful, to become badasses, to not give a flying **** what any woman wants or thinks. You don't have to be a world famous boxer, but you could be a boxer following his dreams. You don't have to be a billionaire, but you could run your own businesses. As long as you have your confidence and you are working on YOURSELF to become the biggest badass, the most successful you can be, then the girls will fall in line and you won't need to play "the game". There would be no "one-itis" because you are #1 in your life and she's just 1 of many. There would be no "she flaked on me what do i do" because the ***** wants you bad, or at least, you wouldn't give a **** if she did.

The confidence and "alpha mindset" (I hate that term) would come naturally because you sincerely don't give a **** about what she wants or thinks. You are #1 and what you want is #1. You follow your own goals, your own dreams, and you are succeeding at it. That right there is the winning formula.

I think we are spending too much energy on what these *****es want, say, or think. I think all 100% of our energy should be spent on making our dreams come true, on becoming the best badass you can be, at becoming the most successful you can be. The confidence and the alpha mindset comes automatically with that, and you won't need to play the game, because *****es respect men like that. A woman sees your world is about -you- and working to improve -you- 24 hours a day, where you don't give a **** what she thinks, where she's lucky she's along for the ride, and you will see how much power you suddenly have with a woman. Remember, we are men. We win in the long term. Women age. Their youthful beauty starts to fade pretty damn fast, while men can continue to be sexy way into their 50's.

I think I have been spending too much time giving a **** about what women say, think, or do.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Yeah you most definitely have to work on yourself and focus on your own life before anything else, and the women will come if you do that.

I find some of the stuff here is a little contradictory.

"I'm no longer an afc. I will not put women on a pedistal any more. Today I'm going to prove that by approaching 50 random women today. The goal is 10 numbers!"

It's like lol, what? Maybe you're not putting one singular female on a pedistal like you would with oneitis; but now you're putting the entire female population on a pedistal.

If approaching women is your whole day, they're on a pedistal. Reason it however you want. You don't dedicate entire days going after things you claim you don't care about.

I think the forum is split between men who honestly want to become real, true, masculine men, with developed personalities, and those looking for quick ways to get an easy lay.

To me it's like the GQ/Esquire crowd vs the Maxim/Playboy crowd. I used to "read" maxim/playboy, oogle the pictures, and read articles on how to land chicks, which is pretty much every other article in those mags. GQ/Esquire focus more on being a mature man. They assume you've gotten past the immaturity phase and would rather read about articles that promote manhood, and everything that being a man entails, which in turn, attracts women.
 

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but in their mind they knew that if they can achieve great success at these things they can get any women they want. Man wants to appear great to woman as long as other man. Basically we just want to be remembered!

Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman!
This is a quote from Think Rich, Grow Rich and I think it is true to a certain extent.

But anyway I agree with yourself. If you read my posts you always know I'm just trying to improve myself really. I don't want/need any tricks to get a girl. I don't like tricks period. I'm consistently just trying to make sure I'm a better person today then I was yesterday.
 

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I'm not sure just being some boxer chasing a dream will get you sh!t. I still work out at the Upper Darby Boxing Club with a lot of has-beens and never-will-bes and they are not, for the most part, swimming in women. A few of them are but they get women with their charm and looks just like any other guy.

I don't hang out much on the indie music scene in Philly but I know a few single guys in bands and they do ok considering how some of them look and how much money they have. But they aren't exactly swimming in it either. Hipster girls that listen to indie rock, while cute and fun to talk to, aren't exactly hobots and can be frigid and prude. This might've been different during Jagger and Richard's time though. I assume the sluts are listening to rap now...

Famous rock stars and boxers do great but they are famous. Unless you are going to be that guy I suggest you learn a little charm and sophistication alongside your passion.
 

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Way to take my post out of context and go into extreme technical semantics.

You heard me, but you didn't really listen.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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