"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So..I was watching a boxing match.. and...

Single4Life

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So, I was watching an older boxing match, between Roy Jones Jr and Vinny Pazienza. Then something became a little more clear to me.


Do you think Roy Jones Jr or Vinny Pazienza give a **** about learning tools, tricks, and tips... trying to learn "the game" with women? Do you think Slash or Keith Richards gave a **** about trying to figure out why women do ****? Do you think any successful man ever gave a flying **** what women wanted? Nope.

and, still, they have their pick of women. The most beautiful women, they all fight for the chance to be with these guys.

So, what are we really doing here? We are trying to improve ourselves and understand women and ourselves, to improve our flaws and mistakes, to play "the game" and get laid/find a wife/girlfriends. Perhaps we are wasting our time.

They are all ways of masking a problem you think you have. You know what I think the most attractive thing to a woman is? An accomplished man. That **** trumps everything. A woman sees that in a man, and she already can put 2+2 together. You can provide a very good nest for her babies. You have a lot of confidence. The **** goes on.

Perhaps, what we SHOULD be doing, is 100% working on ourselves, to become successful, to become badasses, to not give a flying **** what any woman wants or thinks. You don't have to be a world famous boxer, but you could be a boxer following his dreams. You don't have to be a billionaire, but you could run your own businesses. As long as you have your confidence and you are working on YOURSELF to become the biggest badass, the most successful you can be, then the girls will fall in line and you won't need to play "the game". There would be no "one-itis" because you are #1 in your life and she's just 1 of many. There would be no "she flaked on me what do i do" because the ***** wants you bad, or at least, you wouldn't give a **** if she did.

The confidence and "alpha mindset" (I hate that term) would come naturally because you sincerely don't give a **** about what she wants or thinks. You are #1 and what you want is #1. You follow your own goals, your own dreams, and you are succeeding at it. That right there is the winning formula.

I think we are spending too much energy on what these *****es want, say, or think. I think all 100% of our energy should be spent on making our dreams come true, on becoming the best badass you can be, at becoming the most successful you can be. The confidence and the alpha mindset comes automatically with that, and you won't need to play the game, because *****es respect men like that. A woman sees your world is about -you- and working to improve -you- 24 hours a day, where you don't give a **** what she thinks, where she's lucky she's along for the ride, and you will see how much power you suddenly have with a woman. Remember, we are men. We win in the long term. Women age. Their youthful beauty starts to fade pretty damn fast, while men can continue to be sexy way into their 50's.

I think I have been spending too much time giving a **** about what women say, think, or do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MisterD

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Yeah you most definitely have to work on yourself and focus on your own life before anything else, and the women will come if you do that.

I find some of the stuff here is a little contradictory.

"I'm no longer an afc. I will not put women on a pedistal any more. Today I'm going to prove that by approaching 50 random women today. The goal is 10 numbers!"

It's like lol, what? Maybe you're not putting one singular female on a pedistal like you would with oneitis; but now you're putting the entire female population on a pedistal.

If approaching women is your whole day, they're on a pedistal. Reason it however you want. You don't dedicate entire days going after things you claim you don't care about.

I think the forum is split between men who honestly want to become real, true, masculine men, with developed personalities, and those looking for quick ways to get an easy lay.

To me it's like the GQ/Esquire crowd vs the Maxim/Playboy crowd. I used to "read" maxim/playboy, oogle the pictures, and read articles on how to land chicks, which is pretty much every other article in those mags. GQ/Esquire focus more on being a mature man. They assume you've gotten past the immaturity phase and would rather read about articles that promote manhood, and everything that being a man entails, which in turn, attracts women.
 

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but in their mind they knew that if they can achieve great success at these things they can get any women they want. Man wants to appear great to woman as long as other man. Basically we just want to be remembered!

Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman!
This is a quote from Think Rich, Grow Rich and I think it is true to a certain extent.

But anyway I agree with yourself. If you read my posts you always know I'm just trying to improve myself really. I don't want/need any tricks to get a girl. I don't like tricks period. I'm consistently just trying to make sure I'm a better person today then I was yesterday.
 

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I'm not sure just being some boxer chasing a dream will get you sh!t. I still work out at the Upper Darby Boxing Club with a lot of has-beens and never-will-bes and they are not, for the most part, swimming in women. A few of them are but they get women with their charm and looks just like any other guy.

I don't hang out much on the indie music scene in Philly but I know a few single guys in bands and they do ok considering how some of them look and how much money they have. But they aren't exactly swimming in it either. Hipster girls that listen to indie rock, while cute and fun to talk to, aren't exactly hobots and can be frigid and prude. This might've been different during Jagger and Richard's time though. I assume the sluts are listening to rap now...

Famous rock stars and boxers do great but they are famous. Unless you are going to be that guy I suggest you learn a little charm and sophistication alongside your passion.
 

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Way to take my post out of context and go into extreme technical semantics.

You heard me, but you didn't really listen.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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