"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So I want to gain weight the right away.

the_govner

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I used to be a national athlete, tennis player, and was never really gym fit and was always stick thin.

I injured my back last year (damaged disc - nothing major, but I still have to be careful), so I decided to get in shape at the gym instead.

I hired an elite trainer, who has worked with me for one year. I look much more muscular, but haven't exactly gained weight. I'm 5'10 140lbs, and I really look like I've worked out hardcore. That's what the women said in my last beach trip.haha

Anyway, I now work full time and I don't have room to make a schedule to workout with a trainer or go to a gym. So I was thinking of bodyweight training at home. Is it possible to do this and gain weight/muscle at the same time???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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EFFORT

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The answer is probably no .....unless you have the necessary equipment at home, join a gym like everyone else does.
 

blinkwatt101

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Espi said:
Yes--it's possible. You have to use weights though. The equipment would be a sizeable investment...buy the equipment secondhand.
Sound advice! Quality gym equipment like dumbbells,bars and weights can last decades. I'd be more prone to replacing anything with a cable or tension type system every 10-15 years though.
 

CarlitosWay

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Espi said:
Yes--it's possible. You have to use weights though. The equipment would be a sizeable investment...buy the equipment secondhand.
Yeah you would have to invest in a good adjustable bench. Adjustable plat loaded dumbbells, good barbell.

Than on top of it get a power rack so you can do squat movements like front squats, seated shoulder press and say incline barbell bench press with safety pins in place.

Possible, yes. Will it cost a good chunk of change ? possibly. Checkout Craigslist.com for people selling stuff I mentioned, you can sometimes find awesome deals as a lot of people are in desperate need of money.

You would save a good amount of money though in the long run, but the cons would be variety of exercises will be some what limited. As I like to do both barbell work and machines/cable stuff. Yet if you have enough room you can just add stuff as the years progress and you get bigger.

All in all I know people who have done it and got great results so ....but as far as body weight work . It's not optimal and your gains will stagnate eventually as far and strength/size goes. You can only do so much with your body weight.

I would just find a good gym like powerhouse/bodybuilder friendly place and just talk shop with all the people who lift and learn learn learn.
 

Cure

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If you asked your "elite" trainer to help you put on weight, and a year later you weigh 140lb, sue the bastard! that or you are doing somthign really wrong.

If you want to get bigger, just eat more, A LOT more.

That and do squats, deads, Presses, pull ups.

Cure.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Since you didn't mention anything about diet, I assume that it's rubbish.

Muscles don't come from thin air. You don't get big in the gym, you do so in the kitchen. You gotta eat heaps to get big.
 
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