ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
Again, if he could've just been honest, and phucking kept his s-hit real for whatever reason, NO PROBLEM. But he had made indications that he would not have a problem with seeing me again.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Another good post to show why women shouldn't be on these boards. Just another scared little girl who can't handle rejection.Originally posted by ShortyBrown
So I call him up. I spell it out for him that I want his azz. This is what I get (and I s-hit you not people this is what he said) "look, you and I had some fun but this is honestly just not in my nature. I am drawing the line here. " oooook.
So I am drawing a few conslusions:
1. He doesn't find you attractive1. He hasn't come out.
2. He's found someone less *****y.2. He is a scared little boy.
3. He doesn't like your whorish ways.3. He one of these idiots with a small d-ick that cannot handle a female that goes after someone that she wants without taking it to mean that she is a psycho stalker who has invites to the wedding printed already.
4. He found someone more attractive than you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
See how you're ego was affected. You'll notice a lot of people talking about not being some girls slave - it shocks them + they dont know how to handle it. This is our fault (men) because we do tend to just let you have your way (we want sex + have to work for it... or thats what we think.)3. He one of these idiots with a small d-ick that cannot handle a female that goes after someone that she wants without taking it to mean that she is a psycho stalker who has invites to the wedding printed already.
If he could've said straight up after our date that the feeling wasn't mutual I could say cool. But the mofo couldn't help himself and had to go on an ego trip. Ah well.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dude-of course the old ego took a hammering. I'm a cute girl, so whats the prob? s-hit happens. I'll live. I'm taken aback a fair bit by all of this. Usually, I am the one having to tell the lads to take a cold shower!Originally posted by JR2003
Ah what a poor girl(or Boy
)
2 things.. first off, does every girl wanna sleep with a guy after a first date (and what seemed a casual one!) Answer: NO. Why do you think it would be different for a guy?
2nd...
See how you're ego was affected. You'll notice a lot of people talking about not being some girls slave - it shocks them + they dont know how to handle it. This is our fault (men) because we do tend to just let you have your way (we want sex + have to work for it... or thats what we think.)
Just because he didn't want you on that night doesn't mean he's soft or whatever. Perhaps not everybody fancies you + some people can resist your charms
Perhaps he has old-fashioned ideals - thats not a bad thing. If you do want him then stick with him, if you want sex - just go out to a club. Should be easy for you.
yes it is and you know it!Originally posted by ShortyBrown
It's not about being knocked back! For crying out loud!
Men are two faced. Women are two faced. Honesty gets you nowhere. So whaddya do? [/B]
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
hey donjohn,Originally posted by DonJohn83
I can understand the guy...
There are guys out there (i am one of them) that consider sex to be serious.
i dont agree with what your saying here, its because i know of a few people who always say they can, but never do.I know for a fact that i could have slept with many attractive girls but chose not to because of personal values. The more attractive they are, the harder it is... pardon the pun.
i agree with what your saying hereI think he's the type of guy who thinks sex is meaningful and should be reserved for the right girl. LTR stuff im talkin.
Its inconsistent with most guy's mentality of "bang every chick i can", but we do exist y'know.
Maybe I'm not as cute as I think I am. To each his own. Put it this way, I have slept with more sober men than drunk/stoned ones. But again, I have to be careful about what I say about my appearence because that puts a girl in the AW category here.Originally posted by princelydeeds
I haven't knocked you for being forward about sex. I would love it if women just came forward and asked me for my d!ck. Unless you are a hideous beast, Id probably give it to you as reawrd for being so straight forward. It doesnt make a woman a slut in my mind it just means she knows what she wants and has the nuts to go for it. It makes life easy when a woman knows what she wants and isnt afraid to go for it. Maybe its an age thing.
Honestly, I think you must be ugly. I cant imagine a guy who would turn down free sex from a decent looking chick and by decent I mean a a true 6 on a 10 scale. But hey i guess there are a few. I have pretty high standards in terms of who I date but even I dip into the bottom of the pool when Im drunk at 2 AM.![]()
yeah i read about one of you guys in a ripleys believe it or not mag, thats a great trick you got there.Originally posted by DonJohn83
There are guys out there (i am one of them) that consider sex to be serious.
And i agree with what you say here.Originally posted by TTAG
i dont agree with what your saying here, its because i know of a few people who always say they can, but never do.
No no, you just need to get yourself a sense of humor.Originally posted by ( . )( . )
or maybe im thinking to much?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.