"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So, I think I have a stalker...an ex-fiancee

mrrippey

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So, about 12 years ago, I had an affair with a woman that was engaged to be married. The affair lasted about a year. We had some good times but I ended it when I realized that she was 'sloppy.' Somehow her man got into her voicemail (remember this is like 2007-2008) and I guess heard my voice. I was very good to not leave any details of anything but at the end of the day, some random man called his woman. WIth that he got my mobile number. He then started to text me and started to talk boldly. That was a mistake.

I am definitely not 'about that life' anymore but back then, I still had some ties to some unsavory people but my friends I grew up with and would do my a solid especially if I was paying. One time when he texted me about 100x, I replied to the one text that said, "I will come to your job..." Well I was a CTO of a major company at the time and, well that was not going to be a good look. I advised him not to do that else I will have to 'go back to my old ways.' I enlisted my buddies to pay him and her a visit at home (I knew where she lived as I have sent her home in cars all the time). I texted her and told her, "I do not want any issues with you nor your man however, if you do like trouble, my friends can handle it. Look outside if you think I'm joking." My buddies rolled up to her block in a couple of SUV's. I think he got the hint. I did not get a call, text, voicemail or anything like that ever again....not for a few years anyway.

About 2012 or so, I was still working in the city but I was consulting and I noticed that he was looking at my LinkedIn page. Now we are not in the same industry so I am not sure why he would visit my page. Anyway, it seems like every few years, he would just show up on my page. He showed up to my page about two weeks ago. Has been maybe 3-4 years since he did that last.

We live in different states but we are not far from each other or anything like that. I just don't want to get shot walking down the street on day and end up on the news. BTW, they never got married, she moved to MA or something and got married to someone else. Once I got off social media, (about 2015 or so but I still use LinkedIn), I have no idea of who is where or nothing to that effect about any of them.

So, I am curious to get your thoughts on this. Should I actually say something, ignore him, block him (I cannot believe I have not blocked him before).
 

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Damn man. You and the other woman broke the dudes heart.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fight his sorry a ss.
 

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@Mauser96 I really had not thought about this dude nor this situation until I saw that and since I am on LinkedIn a lot, well anyway. I get your point.

I realize I probably didn't block to not give him the impression that I actually care. Clearly he does.

Well if he is actually gonna try and get me, it will be hard to. I'll block him though, better safe than sorry.
 

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So, I am curious to get your thoughts on this. Should I actually say something, ignore him, block him (I cannot believe I have not blocked him before).
There are people out there who are obsessive and mentally fvcked up. This guy sounds like one on them. Block him from whatever you can.

I have myself a few stalkers. A former best friend who is thankfully not doing it as much as he used to. I also now have my GF's parents along with her brother who she's cut contact with. I'm convinced that all four of these people have mental health issues due to their bizarre obsessive and stalker-like behavior.
 

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So, about 12 years ago, I had an affair with a woman that was engaged to be married. The affair lasted about a year. We had some good times but I ended it when I realized that she was 'sloppy.' Somehow her man got into her voicemail (remember this is like 2007-2008) and I guess heard my voice. I was very good to not leave any details of anything but at the end of the day, some random man called his woman. WIth that he got my mobile number. He then started to text me and started to talk boldly. That was a mistake.

I am definitely not 'about that life' anymore but back then, I still had some ties to some unsavory people but my friends I grew up with and would do my a solid especially if I was paying. One time when he texted me about 100x, I replied to the one text that said, "I will come to your job..." Well I was a CTO of a major company at the time and, well that was not going to be a good look. I advised him not to do that else I will have to 'go back to my old ways.' I enlisted my buddies to pay him and her a visit at home (I knew where she lived as I have sent her home in cars all the time). I texted her and told her, "I do not want any issues with you nor your man however, if you do like trouble, my friends can handle it. Look outside if you think I'm joking." My buddies rolled up to her block in a couple of SUV's. I think he got the hint. I did not get a call, text, voicemail or anything like that ever again....not for a few years anyway.

About 2012 or so, I was still working in the city but I was consulting and I noticed that he was looking at my LinkedIn page. Now we are not in the same industry so I am not sure why he would visit my page. Anyway, it seems like every few years, he would just show up on my page. He showed up to my page about two weeks ago. Has been maybe 3-4 years since he did that last.

We live in different states but we are not far from each other or anything like that. I just don't want to get shot walking down the street on day and end up on the news. BTW, they never got married, she moved to MA or something and got married to someone else. Once I got off social media, (about 2015 or so but I still use LinkedIn), I have no idea of who is where or nothing to that effect about any of them.

So, I am curious to get your thoughts on this. Should I actually say something, ignore him, block him (I cannot believe I have not blocked him before).
If all he's doing is looking at your LinkedIn page once every 4 years, I don't think you really need to send out a hit squad.
 

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If all he's doing is looking at your LinkedIn page once every 4 years, I don't think you really need to send out a hit squad.
Not that I would no that now, I am older, wiser and have much more to lose and value my time more than to do something like that. However, we do live in a world where people hold grudges and quite frankly do dumb things.

I blocked him on LinkedIn. I am not on any other social media platforms so he cannot find what is not there.
 

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