this girl i have a date with on friday is being stubborn and playing hard to get let me know if you think im right. Last week i cut off communications with her for almost 3 days,then she instant messaged me(i know,stay off that internet stuff). she again the next day instant messaged me again. so finally i decided i can start a conversation with her,i called her asked her on a date(actually took her up on a rain check,i had a emergency in the family when we were supposed to go out last time). she said sure when i asked and i said how bout friday.she said yeah but she has work,she said we should make plans though. well i went to call her tonight(thursday) and she didnt answer so i left a message. no call back. i have noticed when i hung out with her before that she ignores calls often,hell i ever got her to talk about how she filters who calls her by making them leave a message. now am i right in thinking she is playing hard to get?should i text message her friday?any input would be great.thanks for reading this post.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
so i think i got her figured out
- Thread starter blinkwatt
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In this case, I would leave a message saying something like:
Hey, we made plans for friday(today) but I can't seem to get a hold of you. Call me back before 16.00 otherwise I'll assume the date is off and I'll be taking up another offer from a friend, ok?
Hey, we made plans for friday(today) but I can't seem to get a hold of you. Call me back before 16.00 otherwise I'll assume the date is off and I'll be taking up another offer from a friend, ok?
jester1x
Senior Don Juan
She isn't playing hard to get. It sounds like she just isn't interested enough in your or has any consideration for you.
She has done you a favor by showing you this major character flaw early in the game. (Don't treat me badly, then expect good treatment in return no matter how long I've known you.)
Don't call, don't email and don't respond to her instant messages. Ignore her, but be polite and courteous if and when you see her again. Personally, I wouldn't loose any sleep over this woman.
You're getting yourself twisted-up over nothing. There are other women out there who do return phone calls.
She has done you a favor by showing you this major character flaw early in the game. (Don't treat me badly, then expect good treatment in return no matter how long I've known you.)
Don't call, don't email and don't respond to her instant messages. Ignore her, but be polite and courteous if and when you see her again. Personally, I wouldn't loose any sleep over this woman.
You're getting yourself twisted-up over nothing. There are other women out there who do return phone calls.
I agree with this for the most part, however, with some caution. Bottom line is that I think everyone seems to do this at one point or another. If you're out with a hot girl, chances are you're not the only guy who has hit on her or asked her out. She probably has many suitors, meaning many phone calls, that she will undoubtedly not feel like answering all the time. I know that I go through spurts like that where I'm dating more than one girl at a time and I get calls from them all in succession, and I don't always answer because it's draining to always be on the phone. I'd just rather not be, or just be with one girl to avoid the complexity.Originally posted by jester1x
She isn't playing hard to get. It sounds like she just isn't interested enough in your or has any consideration for you.
She has done you a favor by showing you this major character flaw early in the game. (Don't treat me badly, then expect good treatment in return no matter how long I've known you.)
Don't call, don't email and don't respond to her instant messages. Ignore her, but be polite and courteous if and when you see her again. Personally, I wouldn't loose any sleep over this woman.
You're getting yourself twisted-up over nothing. There are other women out there who do return phone calls.
True, there are women who return phone calls, but if you're at all high on this list of hers (assuming she's good looking and most likely gets calls all the time from guys) she'd either take your call or call you back pretty soon from my experience. If not, it will be pretty safe to assume that you're pretty low on her list of priorities. My last girl called me EVERYDAY and I never even had to dial her number once, because she'd always call, and this was only more of a dating situation, and not really a serious relationship, although it was verbal that we were only seeing each other, she said I could see other girls if I wanted.
Anyways, that's my take on it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.