"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So I said "I love you"...

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Let the flames begin...

Anyway after getting through some **** recently, I have been very happy with her. And vice versa, to put it mildly. Anyway I felt comfortable and said those three dreaded words the other night... it just felt right... I deserve a good slappin. Why? Because the least I could have done was to figure for myself exactly what that meant to me... She had told me she was waiting to hear that and felt the same way, then later asked if it meant i love her, or am in love with her? I could get into some stupid philosophical discussion with her stating that no-one knows the true meaning of love, blah ****in blah. Any ideas for a response to this? Aside from silly AFC labels and abuse (not like I dont deserve it :eek: :rolleyes: )...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I just wanted to be the first one to ask the question," Weren't you just asking how to get her off over the phone?" Or is this another little philly in your stable?

Don't make me go there dude...

In the mean time "In love with you" is better than "love you" if you have to say something. You can always fall out of love, and the other is a valure judgement on her person which is not easily reneged upon.
 

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Cheers bud. Yes, that is me :D . And don't ask ;). Theres always more to it.

Thanks
 

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Originally posted by Ripped
Cheers bud. Yes, that is me :D . And don't ask ;). Theres always more to it.

Thanks
Does she just give the best head in the world or what because I seriously don't understand why you'd go through so much hassle for a relationship so obviously out of your way...
 

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The problem is a transport related one at the moment, due to my wheels being blown sky high, and her not driving. Also her studying her final year, me working fulltime, being in a band and starting a business, etc. Otherwise its seriously not a hassle. Only about two more months to put up with it until I get my new ride.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fair enough, just remember that "In love with you" gives you wiggle room and keeps her on her toes. "Love you" is handing over your nvtz unless you've been dating 6-8 mos. or longer...

Best of luck in life and love brother.

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

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Cheers bro
 
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Did she ever say "I love you" to u b4?

Did you mean it? Marriage?
 

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Ok....she asked you that question....yet you're here asking us how to respond. What do you do?

you: "Uh, I'm sorry, can I get back to you after I ask my DJ buddies?"

her: "What? What DJ buddies?"

you: "Uh...hehe...scratch that. OH MY LOOK AT THE TIME! Time to go!"

::shuffle shuffle::

her: ::crickets chirping::

hmm, part of DJing is learning how to improvise and not being afraid to make mistakes. Plus, if you DO make mistakes, learn from them. How do you think these guys learned? Surely, they weren't born DJs.

Don't give me any smart ass "I was born a DJ" comment. TY and GL.;)
 

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I was born to be a rockstar. Being a DJ is something I hope to develop on the side ;).

@PR - She was the first to tell me what she thought of me ages back... and made it clear a while ago she didnt want to be the first to say those three words, even though she felt it, but (as I said) didn't want to risk me reacting badly to it. SO it was a safe comment to make. Laaadi ****in daaa. I know I like her a lot and blah blah. Marriage is however, a word not in my vocabulary at the moment ;).

@AFK - Lol... actually she sms'ed me after one of her friends rasied it to her. I just said I was having enough trouble deciding between two cheeseburgers or a quarter pounder, and would save the philosophical discussion for later.

I'm learning and recognising my mistakes! In small steps... This site has been a huge help. In all seriousness, I never, until the last three months, had attractive women after me. If I was not with her I could have any of her friends that have created a long line behind her... all thanks to this site :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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