I met this lady at a club. I believe she was 38 or 39 or so. I was dancing with her cause she was hot. We were having a good time but her friend kept pulling her away and covk blocking me. So she left but got her number. Called her Tuesday she said she was busy and would call me back. Never did. But then early Wednesday morning she called and apologized and said she was busy and all that. She left me a message and I called her back that afternoon and said I had a good time with her and wanted to see if she wants to grab a drink sometime. Never heard from her. What do I do next? And why does she call me back early in the morning if she doesn't have any interest?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
So I met this chick at a club, need opinions...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Just let her go. Maybe you will run into her at the same club again. If you do talk to her again, make no mention of her flakiness. Act like you didn't notice.
Any woman's interest in you will ebb and flow. There is no understanding it. Most likely it relates to whatever hormones happen to be flowing through her at any given moment. It's a lot like the weather. Sometimes it rains on you.
Any woman's interest in you will ebb and flow. There is no understanding it. Most likely it relates to whatever hormones happen to be flowing through her at any given moment. It's a lot like the weather. Sometimes it rains on you.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
trent81 said:
You missed three low interest 'signs' here and a couple yellow flags.
1. She allowed her friend to dictate terms to the extent that she left the club because her 'friend" convinced her to do so. Her friend was exerting more influence than you were...it happens to all of us .
2. Tuesday she promised to call you back but never did. I assume that she had your cell so her excuse that she was "busy" was lame. Who is busy all day and all night? Low or moderate IL at best.
3. Your attempt to 'ask her out' was weak . When a woman is iffy, or hemming and hawing, you better take control and lead her or she will retreat. However ,she may also back away at your dominance but at least you will know where you stand with her . You possibly could have rescued the situation on that last call by telling her where and when you planned to see her again but you handed her the choice to see you again or not . She declined by not snapping up your offer .
Oh, NEVER ask a new woman out on her VM - NEVER ,EVER.
Finally, her silence is her MESSAGE to you.
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jophil28
Master Don Juan
trent81 said:
Are you trying to construct some smidgen of belief that she has some interest level in you because she called you back the next morning ?
Look, if she had enough interest level in you she would have sent you some 'buying signals' by now.
Unless she is in traction, or has been kidnapped by aliens, she has had ample opportunity to contact you.
Read my sig.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
