"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I met another psycho and need your opinions....

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I saw this post on craigslist about this chick *****in and moaning about some dude she didn't like. I emailed and sent a pic she sent a pic and she showed interest. She wrote her number and asked me to call her, when I called, she started being rude and condecending. I was like, "what fuvk is your problem?" afterall, she did ask me to call her. So towards the end of the conversation I said, "Look, I don't know what your problem is but you told me to call you and I would like to meet you for a drink when you calm the fuvk down and be nicer". She agreed. Then, she flaked on me that day. Here comes the psychotic event....
When she flaked, I said, whatever, maybe some other time. I deleted her number. Mind you, I never met her. She then told me that she would get back to me Sunday (tomorrow). I said whatever and deleted her number. On Friday morning (yesterday) I get a text from her as if we have known each other for two weeks. The texts were pointless (about her work day). After a few texts I said (look, I gotta go but have a good rest of the afternoon at work. talk to you soon). I never heard anything back after that text. I never asked her out again. What the hell was that text about? Am I going crazy here? Why was she rude to me when I called? What the hell is wrong with this girl. She is hot but I think she is crazy. What's the next move? Contact her one more time? Or let her "get back to me" as she said. Have no idea why I received texts yesterday. She was talking like we have known each other for weeks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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trent,

trent says

I saw this post on craigslist about this chick *****in and moaning about some dude she didn't like.
The girl was crazy when you met her, there's ALOT of crazy people on craigslist and hookers too! Myspace is a good spot to meet chicks online but craigslist is full of psychos.
 

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trent81 said:
Why was she rude to me when I called? What the hell is wrong with this girl. She is hot but I think she is crazy. What's the next move? Contact her one more time? Or let her "get back to me" as she said. Have no idea why I received texts yesterday. She was talking like we have known each other for weeks.
Is she crazy?

Why was she rude to you ?

Imagine this - you are a good looking guy who is usually pursued by women...no problem.

Then you decide, after a recent breakup, to post a rant on Craigslist about how your ex G/f did you wrong. You really go off on her, and women in general.
Then you receive an email for some random woman who wants to talk to you after she read your explosion.

What would you think of a woman who contacts you "for a drink.." after you have hated on females in general?

How are you likely to treat her given your emotional condition??
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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