"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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so i just found out my 17 year old sister is a lesbian

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to be honest i'm not totally shocked she's always been a tom boy. but i mean, i don't know how i feel about this. i mean she's my sister she's like my oldest child i will love her regardless of what she does. i'm not even mad or feel bad or angry or any of that i mean if she likes women she likes women **** i like women too lol i can undrestand why she likes women. i don't know rather to be jealous or proud that the girl is kinda hot lol.

i guess i wonder more than anything how momma is gonna take it as no one knows but me yet and of course the girl she's ****ing... i kinda felt like i did something wrong or we did something wrong to steer her this way i suppose i know for a fact she wasn't always gay.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i kinda felt like i did something wrong or we did something wrong to steer her this way i suppose i know for a fact she wasn't always gay.
When you say "she wasn't always gay", I'm sure some would say yes, she was, and was hiding it. And maybe that's true. But I'm going to take you at your word since you probably have some relevant information on it.

That said, today's culture encourages LGBTs, and of that group I think Lesbianism is especially encouraged. I've known women who have sworn up and down they were 100% total lesbians, and were not attracted to men at all (no, I wasn't trying to get in their pants lol). Then two months later they had boyfriends that were the love of their lives. Or a few months later they were pregnant by some dude. A lot of girls go back and forth. So who knows, maybe your sister will swing the other way again.

I think most women have a bit of the bisexual in them to begin with. Add in the culture telling them it is "cool" to be a lesbian, and they may not need much of a shove.
 

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My gf from high school was a lesbian in college. She lived with a girl who was 100% bull dyke. Then they broke up, she met a guy, and has been married to him for almost 20 years now. They have a 12 y/o daughter. So yeah, it's different with women.
 

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All women are bisexual. My younger sister was doing some bisexual stuff with other girls basically just to 'impress' a now ex boyfriend who was 18, while she was 14 at the time :confused::confused::confused: I also got my other sister doing some weird **** too, though not as extreme as the younger one. Women are weird man.
 

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Apparently women's sexuality is a bit more flexible than men's. That may explain how she may have changed to a lesbian easily, given she was straight before.

Bet if she meets a brad Pitt lookalike she might turn straight again
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Plus women are told men are turned on by seeing two girls go at it too. I'm sure you've seen two girls on the dance floor making out with each other to get male attention.
 

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As long as you love her that's the only factor that's important.

But yeah Women sexuality is alot affected by the biological clock and her sef-esteem....

Alot of teens consider themselves ''lesbians'' because they don't like their body or find themselves attractives to guys

I've see many ''lesbians'' after dating a female, go with a guy to make a baby .... and eventually go back to being living with women.

So your sister might change her orientation again depending on her ''desire'' and ''esteem''. However, if she is set... good for her... she won't be a confused one

Female on Female dynamic is intense... the girls can be really violent lol.
 

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Must've been molested at a young age by another woman, or a girl with the same age.
 

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I mean I know my sister. I don't think she really is attracted to women as much as she is attracted to the self esteem women give her that men don't.


Last year she was out here lost weight she def want gay then. Goes home puts it back on now she munching carpet
 
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