So I hooked up with this girl and now shes blowing me off.

[JT12]

Hi my name is JT12. I'm new to this forum but have read things on here from time to time and wanted to get this forums advice as most people I know are kinda useless. Here is my story.

I had a GF until recently and met this beautiful girl at school while I was still dating my girl. I walked up to her one day on the fly and complimented her and walked away. I saw her a week or two later and we exchanged smiles in the library. I still had a gf so didn't think to much other than shes cute. So I ended it with my gf and like three weeks later I saw this girl again. So I approached her and introduced myself, came up with bs topics to talk about and we hit it off. I got her number and she was like text me anytime. Well what do you know like four hours later I got a text from her saying hi its "such and such" from school.

We texted back and forth for a few hours. I got her to go on a date with me out to eat and she texted me all the time. I got her on a second date and she drank voluntarily. I didn't pressure alcohol on her in anyway. I live within walking distance to the restaurant we went to. So I didn't think to much of it. We went to my place and hooked up all night and the next morning. Then we texted for another couple days and set up another date to get together and she flaked the morning off like "I have work, friends, ETC" she called that night and chatted me up for like 30-40 mins. I was tired so I clicked off and was like I'll call you tomorrow. So I call and act like nothing happened yesterday like "hey when are you free" cause I have most nights free so. Then she gave me the whole "my friends are coming home from college, my aunts visiting from florida next week, and I work two jobs" so idk. I was like "dont knock something until you try it twice" tongue in cheek reference to the hook up and she laughed and left it at i'll think about it idk.


So what do you guys and girls think? My friends say I should just be happy I hooked up and got a cool one night stand, but idk she seemed cool and I kinda liked her. I was thinking call her in a week like she didn't blow me off or some **** and then call her again on another date.

 

[LongLostFriend]

Aloofness is what is called for here. Do not become more invested in her than she is in you.

In other words, same advice as always.

 

[j0504s]

simple suggestions, just dont contact her, Women want the attention, so dont give it to her....see if she contacts u....after 2 weeks if u dont hear from her contact her if it worksout great if it doesnt go to ur next ladie...simple as that.

and agree with LLF dont invest in her more then she does in you, bradd80 calls it the 2/3's rule give her 2/3s of everything she gives u...atleast dont let her know u r more invested in her at minnimum

right now she knows ur more into her...by going ghost for abit it will get the hamster spinning in her head..."why is he not hitting me up" "did he meet another girl?" "did he only just want me body" "am i not that special" "I WANT MY VALIDATION"

simple as that if things dont work out 3billion other chicks hotter better cooler

 

[JT12]

Thanks guys. I'm not emotionally invested or some **** so ignoring her will be easy. Thats not bad advice. She even was like oh we can still talk and stuff "text me". Thats good advice and might work after a couple of days of radio silence. People in general need validation and it did go kinda quickly. I mean outta nowhere texting all day everyday and hooking up. The bars around here are kinda jumpin and I always get dances and a few kisses each night its just I can't convince them I'm not Ted Bundy at the end of the night lmao.

 

[lamobatsman]

i hate this whole games with girls. why girls play games. im just honest and upfront. i like you and i dont want to play games

 

[JT12]

i hate this whole games with girls. why girls play games. im just honest and upfront. i like you and i dont want to play games

Yeah it is really annoying that girls do this. I mean everybody does it and it is really annoying. Who cares though am I right? The girl who likes you will always make time for you thats how I see it. My last couple gfs went above and beyond to make time for me when we started dating.

 

[lamobatsman]

Yeah it is really annoying that girls do this. I mean everybody does it and it is really annoying. Who cares though am I right? The girl who likes you will always make time for you thats how I see it. My last couple gfs went above and beyond to make time for me when we started dating.

trueee saying

 

[Zarky]

You got her initially because you played it cool. Time to do so again.

 

[JT12]

You got her initially because you played it cool. Time to do so again.

How would you suggest I do that? Not being sarcastic or anything. I mean I'm just not gonna call her for like a week to two weeks.

 

[Sandow]

You're being too aggressive aka one-itis aka too needy aka too predictable aka too boring aka beta male aka no challenge. In other words she's losing interest because of what I listed.

 

[JT12]

You're being too aggressive aka one-itis aka too needy aka too predictable aka too boring aka beta male aka no challenge. In other words she's losing interest because of what I listed.

Yeah your probably right. I got to all up in her **** but the weird thing is, a majority of the time it was her initiating the contact and I didn't think much of it that I maybe shouldnt have picked up or acted as interested.

 

[Kbomb]

Yeah your probably right. I got to all up in her **** but the weird thing is, a majority of the time it was her initiating the contact and I didn't think much of it that I maybe shouldnt have picked up or acted as interested.

It isn't that. You just acted as if you had no other options. She must feel that she doesn't "have" you. You do not do this by acting uninterested. You do it by changing your entire attitude.

 

[JT12]

It isn't that. You just acted as if you had no other options. She must feel that she doesn't "have" you. You do not do this by acting uninterested. You do it by changing your entire attitude.

I don't get what you mean by acting like you have other options. I just present myself like I do all the time and even if I do I wouldn't lead on to the fact. What do you mean? Just act like whatever I don't need you anyway?

 

[Sandow]

Yeah your probably right. I got to all up in her **** but the weird thing is, a majority of the time it was her initiating the contact and I didn't think much of it that I maybe shouldnt have picked up or acted as interested.

Of course she is! But that doesn't matter, what matters is how you behaved. It always starts with her interest, but once she starts seeing that you aren't congruent with your actions, she's gone. You can call it a test, or testing the waters, but she is starting to notice you aren't what she expected.

 

[Kbomb]

You must have done something to put her off in the intervening time between hook up and present day. Most likely you acted as if she was the only girl in your life, which is usually being way too available or supplicating. For instance, your comment about not knocking something until you try it twice was an indicator of low self esteem, as if you were assuming rejection.

There was probably a lot more, but you haven't really elaborated.

"Whatever i don't need you" isn't what i meant. Its more like "**** i'm having fun". If you could understand that then you would be on your way.

 

[VladPatton]

You will not always know why girls do such things. It could be all she wanted was a lay and nothing more. Her excuses seem lame. Leave it alone and let HER reach out to you. If she doesn't, you will know....she's done and doesn't want anything further relationship with you. Don't text her like a chick, that's unnecessary. Keep it cool, and her actions in the next few days will speak volumes.

 

[Sofomore]

Yea man the "don't knock it till you try it twice" was the wrong thing to say. Does a dude with 10 girls ready to smash say that? No way.

Always assume she is down, just don't act needy. Take a step back and don't contact her til she contacts you. If she doesn't contact you, well, there's your answer.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Why hasn't anyone mentioned the elephant in the room?

Maybe the sexx wasn't good for her?

I'm not saying the OP doesn't know what he's doing etc, BUT in my experience, when you bang a girl good, even if you guys don't click well, she will always be down to hook up again and again.

Anyways, as the others have said, all you can do now is pull back and see if that peaks her interest a bit. If not, simply move on.

I'm also curious as some have mentioned, did you say anything chumpish when you guys were hanging out?

And speaking on the actual sex, how was it? Did you bang her good? Did you think she enjoyed herself? Did she have an O??







PIMP

 

[SpazzAttackk]

I hooked up with a girl, and she blew me off too

Okay I gotta stop this **** lol.

 

[JT12]

Why hasn't anyone mentioned the elephant in the room?

Maybe the sexx wasn't good for her?

I'm not saying the OP doesn't know what he's doing etc, BUT in my experience, when you bang a girl good, even if you guys don't click well, she will always be down to hook up again and again.

Anyways, as the others have said, all you can do now is pull back and see if that peaks her interest a bit. If not, simply move on.

I'm also curious as some have mentioned, did you say anything chumpish when you guys were hanging out?

And speaking on the actual sex, how was it? Did you bang her good? Did you think she enjoyed herself? Did she have an O??

Very valid question and one I sure as hell didn't think of. I gave my ex Os everytime we had sex and kept her coming back after the break up lol. Though I think she did have an O. She was fidgeting and seizuring and she said it was "great". I try to make sure both teams go home with the gold. There was however some stuff I wasn't ready for like she wanted me to hit her really hard and fist her and stuff like violent beyond what I was prepared for. Then she put on Lesbian porn and she started pullin things out of my closest to smack her around with. I mean I think she was more interested in being dominated and I was more interested in regular sex. Though you could tell we both did things our "exs" liked and we were both like ohh idk about that, like she grabbed my balls with a vice grip . I thought she was gonna rip em off. and I had to change up my lick game on the fly.