"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
So I got my man....but......
- Thread starter ShortyBrown
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
so was she
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
I know exactly who and what I am. I know that I would make a worthy wife, girlfriend, mother. I don't care what some judgemental 41 year old phuck up thinks(PRL and the security boy). The more this thread progresses however, the more I realise that it's going to be a very long time (if it EVER happens) before I find a man with the strength and guts to look deeper into me, to see my contradictions as a challenge, and to look at me as an asset in his life.
Player_Supreme
Banned
This is the difference from dating men vs boys! Poor Shorty...Tell Daddy how you like it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Originally posted by Crotch Sniffer
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Damn.
Shunning wh0res I can understand... but now you shun hungry bytches?
Your loss man. They say that the girls with the biggest appetites also have other insatiable appetites in the sack. Hmmm perhaps you assumed she is a slut for this reason..
Either way, you are fukkin crazy!
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I shun girls that bytch a lot because these are selfish woman that always want their way or else their world falls apart -- I have a low tolerance for hos and an even lower tolerance for whihing hos. If you can't control your own attitude and outlook on life -- then what the hell can you control!
You are right - the girls with the biggest appetites do put a higher premium on satisfying their other carnal desires (just like guys) -- gluttoning and sexual lust have a common bond. But you also have to remember that girls with biggest appetites eventually have the biggest and fattest asses
I am crazy though -- I've been corresponding with you guys in the last weeks in an insane asylum -- I didn't think my insanity was coming across in my writings - but since I'm crazy, how would I determine that what I'm writing is coming from a crazed mind -- it seems perfectly normal to me.
I thought everyone else on this board was crazy -- maybe its just me then --- dunno.
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
) And the issue of respect-why would you initiate contact with someone you don't respect? (we don't have to talk to each other) unless you're just being an ego tripper. Which I don't think the man is. Oh God I need to get this sorted....
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
I am a funny dude!
Biut a man of purpose!
It was her bad attitude (bad mood) that always accompanied her hunger that I nexted and not because of her natural desire to be fed.
I don't cater to the whims of hos - to do so would only tire me in my greater pursuits!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
sounds like you wanted to shag securityboy. you shagged securityboy. now you want more? more what? shagging? or intimacy?
what do you really want?
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Alonso,
Good analysis and observation!
Iqqi -- why is it that only woman are in bad moods because they haven't eaten in 4 hours (don't use the word 'starving') ---- if you have a medical problem i understand, but women whine a hell of a lot -- as alonso said if a man did this he'll be considered a whining pansy. Both sexes get hungry equally!
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
Kid-Icarus
Don Juan
Since you are already in this situation.. just confront the brother and tell him him how you feel, thougth about the situation and askor demand an answer.....
trust me it sounds like crappy advice but you'll either get
1: what you were looking for or
2: closure= he'll give you some excuse about why hes acting the way he is ect
either way you'll get an answer and wont be wondering about it constantly...
Even if its bad news its beteer u know and then going outta yo mind wondering..
My 2cents.. anyone got change for a dollar?
iqqi
Master Don Juan
the 4 hour thing is specific to your one situation, that one chic.
people period will be grumpy if their basic needs of survival are compromised. it is biological.
i have a guy friend who is always grumpy from not eating.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
iqqi
Master Don Juan
think maybe this one is over. if i was in your shoes, i would not ask him anything. when he comes to you (and you are able to talk), i would say something like
"i am sorry if i was a bit forward the other night, if i scared you. it's just that i am a woman and i know what i want."
that tells him you are aware of his childishness, and it is a classy and confident statement.
you are in a good position for him to come to you since he has to see you all the time. do NOT give him looks, act like you aren't even thinking of him.
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
ShortyBrown
Master Don Juan
I am just finishing my shift today and another girl I work with comes to me and says, "girl people are talkin s h i t about you and Freddie" (that aint his real name.)
I sit down and prepare to hear how the phucker is telling people that I was beggin for it.
My friend told me that the person said that shorty seems to be really into Freddie and that Freddie told the person that I was throwing myself at him & I had given him my digits and given him my address & begged him to call,(Which never happened. ) and that I was pathetic. My pal told said gossip ***** that if that was true then young Freddie should be giving me mixed signals.
For the record I couldn't care what people are saying. I am honestly flattered that Freddie thinks enough about my "ability" to further embelish the truth about what went on.
But it does not make sense that he would say this. Why? because he asked me to behave in the same way that I did toward him before we did the deed. He also asked to keep quiet happened.
I agreed to this because I felt the same, and because I was unsure about what I felt about him.
One of three things have happened here.
1) This conversation didn't take place, and this person is a lying, jealous *****.
2) This conversation took place, and Freddie is gonna get his teeth broken for being a lying little *****.
3) This conversation took place, and one of them is getting their teeth broken for being a s h i t talkin' loser.
Crotch Sniffer
Banned
I am having the same problem as you. This is the thing with shagging coworkers. Be prepared to deal with it and dont read too much into the gossip.
If you really want to win this guy over, then just be cool about the whole thing. Dont confront him or give him ultimatums. Act like the sex was nothing to fuss over. If you change your behavior towards him now, then it will signal the primitive part of his brain that says "Needy PsychoBytch...RUN AWAY!"
Be more of a challenge and dont wear your heart on your sleeve.
Oh and dont get all smoochy on him either. He has to EARN your affection, remember?
You will only get treated as a princess if you behave like one. So far you have only succeeded in being his wh0re. (sex without kissing)
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need a reality check honey
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.