"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So I got asked out...

DJoneday

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How do you guys react to getting asked out by a girl you actually value as a friend, but nothing more?

I had this chick that is a really awesome girl, but i'm just not attracted to her in THAT way ask me out yesterday. I just said i couldn't because of some things going on with an ex of mine, to which she responded:
"Dump that ***** and go out with me!"

I just said "We'll see how things go."

I was in a really bad mood for that at the time (not in a bad mood, but just tired and almost asleep) so it hit me really off-balance.

I havn't talked to the girl since, and don't know exactally how she's gonna act, how do you all think i should have/did handle the situation? How should I act around her later?

I was just going to act like it hadn't happened, but if she brings it up again i'm not really sure how to react?

Now i know how chicks who deal with AFC guys feel...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Limitless

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Use as a friends with benefits. Or let her down easy.
 

DJoneday

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No friends with benifits....i'm not into her phsically at all.
 

mike_0678

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evidently she's not that attractive, am i right? what do you rate her? she might get mad about you and your current love interest but dont let that get to your head, she thinks you'll do anything for her, dont do it. she has to realize you guys are just friends, I know from a guys stand point that LJBF line sucks ballz but sometimes it needs to be said.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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alittle on the low side and you said "at best" so she could be a 4 or 5 by another dj's standards. is there somthing between you two that doesnt make you want her? like a weird experience or somthing or is she just to much of a friend
 

DJoneday

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well she's a pretty good friend, but she's just nothing like the kind of girls i like to date. I don't find her attractive, and i'm sure i couldn't stand her much after an hour or two of chilling with her.
 
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