"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I did the craziest thing the other night..

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And approached some girl right in front of her boyfriend. Literally right in front, as they were the only two sitting at a table. I basically went up to them and said hello and asked them how they were doing. Then I said, I know this is random and this is probably your boyfriend and I mean no disrespect by this but you are really cute and I thought I would let you know. She then proceeded to tell me he actually was her boyfriend but it was very nice of me to tell her that. We then briefly talked for a bit and then I exited. I don't know what was in me at the time. It was just an impulse thing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I wanted to do the craziest thing yesterday. I am sitting with my book and my drink when this obnoxious guy saunters in with a female and sits next to me. Apparently, he met her on match.com. She had flown from Florida to meet him.

I'll spare the details, but this guy made at least 50 sexual reference in 20 minutes. He wants to know how their potentially long term relationship will play out. The woman is sitting there with her sunglasses on saying very little while he drones on and on. I wanted to jump in the conversation and say man can't you read her. She is not going to slept with you. Now please go away.
 

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You should of. Could of got yourself some Florida girl ass.
 

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Why not talk to a girl without a guy next to her? Seems more logical to me.
 

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Not really a big deal. I talk to random people all the time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oakraiderz2 said:
Why not talk to a girl without a guy next to her? Seems more logical to me.
I already have a girlfriend. I had no intention of getting her number, hooking up etc..

It's just that I've been in a relationship so long I forgot what approaching was like. It was refreshing. This seemed the safest thing to do. Don't want to give some poor single girls some false hope.
 
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