"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So, I decided to run a little experiment....
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Igetit!
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Asterisk said:
Love her so much that you feel she's the only person on earth that matters? And willing to go to extremes for her? Huh.
Unless I'm mistaken,I believe that's called "oneitis" my friend.
I could maybe see that for a wife,or someone you've been in a relationship with for a long period of time,but if you mean for some chick you just met whom you find attractive,yeah....I believe that's oneitis.
Well it's cool you stumbled upon this idea and I'm glad you got these positive results,but honestly....all you did was show that you're new to this place.Well, I decided to try something a little different. I picked 5 girls I know (no, not family, you pervert!) and tried to form a crush on all 5 at once. Immediately it was different. I felt happy, confident, a bit ****y and even a little bit sexual. I love? maybe.head over heels? absolutely not.
Give it a shot yourself. Pick 5 girls you know (again not family you weirdo!)
and think about them all at once. Try to give yourself crush on all 5 at the same time. Think about them as you would a single crush. Think about everything would do with them (or to them
We have a term for what you did here. It's widely preached and is actually pretty common advice. It's called "Spinning plates".
I've actually been lurking here for 5 years.
I've read the DJ Bible, I've read the Book of Pook,
so yeah, I know what spinning plates is.
This was just an exercise I came up with to simulate the idea.
To boost confidence before going into the field.
To remind myself that I am the Great Catch
As you know, this mindset is important to anyone who would be Don Juan.
Personally, I think it's a nice idea to keep oneitis away for those who do not yet have multiple options.