"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"

now i cant do anything during the day so i just assumed at the time that she had something planned that night which is why she didnt say we can still do something, os i just left it

anyway she started texting me today (Saturday morning) asked what i was upto today and i told her im busy during the day and i asked what she had planned, she replied "just college work, boring stuff really"

so should i call her and risk being rejected again, by asking her to do something tonight? or do i just leave it and arrange something next week with her while at college for the weekend in person!?

shes a bit of an attention seeker (not *****) and she does blow hot and cold regulary, but she trys to play the insecure act at times, i dont really buy it though

what do you think?

cheers
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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I think you could get hit by a car and die on Monday. I think you could be sick next weekend. I think you're thinking about this too much. Just call her and ask if she's available! Forget all this crap about needing to appear busy on the weekend, and looking like a "loser" because you still have your Saturday night free this late in the week. Just do it! Don't be needy, but take action!
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"
What the hell is that? :confused: Maybe she's just dumb. I'd say try again. If she's dumb, forget it.
 

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Reponse from a female:

I just confirmed it, she is dumb.

Just kidding.

She wants to hang out with you. Call her back and tell her that you're no longer busy and are free to hang out.
 

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Originally posted by blueangel83
Reponse from a female:

I just confirmed it, she is dumb.

Just kidding.

She wants to hang out with you. Call her back and tell her that you're no longer busy and are free to hang out.
Ignore :nono:
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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so, what happened..?

IMO saying she doesn`t work saturday does not mean she won`t go out with you.

just ask her out (DJ style ofcourse) if she declines it is her loss, and you can next her. If she is interested she will go out with you ;-)
 

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well she spent the night with her bf(did i forget to mention that bit earlier? hehe), i had a quick chat with her on msn, and i made plans with some other gal that night anyway

funny thing is i told this gal that i had made plans with this other gal and today she was like "so did u pull?" and when i refused to tell her she got pissed and refused to tell me anything that i asked her always saying "a lady doesnt tell" coz i said "a gentleman doesnt tell"

i laughed it off and told her ill speak to her when shes being less silly and boring, and she got annoyed at that too and i went

hehe
 

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she got a boyfriend +
You admit she is an attention seeker
=

Waste of time. If she wants a date, let her set it up. In the meantime, find a single chick.
 

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in the interim, lose interest, talk about other women to her, and refer to her as your buddy, and see how she responds.
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"

now i cant do anything during the day so i just assumed at the time that she had something planned that night which is why she didnt say we can still do something, os i just left it

anyway she started texting me today (Saturday morning) asked what i was upto today and i told her im busy during the day and i asked what she had planned, she replied "just college work, boring stuff really"

so should i call her and risk being rejected again, by asking her to do something tonight? or do i just leave it and arrange something next week with her while at college for the weekend in person!?

shes a bit of an attention seeker (not *****) and she does blow hot and cold regulary, but she trys to play the insecure act at times, i dont really buy it though

what do you think?

cheers
WHY O Why Lord do us men take ourselves through this sh*t ?! Leave her alone! You know that! I dont have to tell you that! I know you feel it man! if it dont seem right to you then it probably isnt...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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