"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So i asked this gal out

Jizz

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the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"

now i cant do anything during the day so i just assumed at the time that she had something planned that night which is why she didnt say we can still do something, os i just left it

anyway she started texting me today (Saturday morning) asked what i was upto today and i told her im busy during the day and i asked what she had planned, she replied "just college work, boring stuff really"

so should i call her and risk being rejected again, by asking her to do something tonight? or do i just leave it and arrange something next week with her while at college for the weekend in person!?

shes a bit of an attention seeker (not *****) and she does blow hot and cold regulary, but she trys to play the insecure act at times, i dont really buy it though

what do you think?

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think you could get hit by a car and die on Monday. I think you could be sick next weekend. I think you're thinking about this too much. Just call her and ask if she's available! Forget all this crap about needing to appear busy on the weekend, and looking like a "loser" because you still have your Saturday night free this late in the week. Just do it! Don't be needy, but take action!
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"
What the hell is that? :confused: Maybe she's just dumb. I'd say try again. If she's dumb, forget it.
 

blueangel83

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Reponse from a female:

I just confirmed it, she is dumb.

Just kidding.

She wants to hang out with you. Call her back and tell her that you're no longer busy and are free to hang out.
 

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Originally posted by blueangel83
Reponse from a female:

I just confirmed it, she is dumb.

Just kidding.

She wants to hang out with you. Call her back and tell her that you're no longer busy and are free to hang out.
Ignore :nono:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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so, what happened..?

IMO saying she doesn`t work saturday does not mean she won`t go out with you.

just ask her out (DJ style ofcourse) if she declines it is her loss, and you can next her. If she is interested she will go out with you ;-)
 

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well she spent the night with her bf(did i forget to mention that bit earlier? hehe), i had a quick chat with her on msn, and i made plans with some other gal that night anyway

funny thing is i told this gal that i had made plans with this other gal and today she was like "so did u pull?" and when i refused to tell her she got pissed and refused to tell me anything that i asked her always saying "a lady doesnt tell" coz i said "a gentleman doesnt tell"

i laughed it off and told her ill speak to her when shes being less silly and boring, and she got annoyed at that too and i went

hehe
 

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she got a boyfriend +
You admit she is an attention seeker
=

Waste of time. If she wants a date, let her set it up. In the meantime, find a single chick.
 

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in the interim, lose interest, talk about other women to her, and refer to her as your buddy, and see how she responds.
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
the other night, i basically while at work texted her asking if she wanted to do something after she finished work on saturday night, she replied saying "im not working on saturday sorry"

now i cant do anything during the day so i just assumed at the time that she had something planned that night which is why she didnt say we can still do something, os i just left it

anyway she started texting me today (Saturday morning) asked what i was upto today and i told her im busy during the day and i asked what she had planned, she replied "just college work, boring stuff really"

so should i call her and risk being rejected again, by asking her to do something tonight? or do i just leave it and arrange something next week with her while at college for the weekend in person!?

shes a bit of an attention seeker (not *****) and she does blow hot and cold regulary, but she trys to play the insecure act at times, i dont really buy it though

what do you think?

cheers
WHY O Why Lord do us men take ourselves through this sh*t ?! Leave her alone! You know that! I dont have to tell you that! I know you feel it man! if it dont seem right to you then it probably isnt...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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