“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So I asked a girl out on saturday night, and she says "We'll talk about it"

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So, after a fantastic evening with this girl on Saturday night, I ask her if she had anything going for her besides her looks. Starts qualifying herself.

Then she asks me the same question. I didn't know how to handle it, so I answered.

Anyway, we're approaching her house (Mind you, her curfew was 11 PM, and I dropped her off around 10 PM after a makeout session at my house) and I start thinking to ask her out.

Anyway, JUST BEFORE she leaves the car, I blurt out "Want to start dating?".

Big error, IMO. Shouldn't have done that, later on the drive home I realized it put alot of pressure on her at that moment.

"We'll talk about it" she replies.

I didn't take it as rejection.

Today she texts: "Listen about what you asked me saturday night, i didnt mean for it to be any type of rejection i just feel i need to get to know you better"

And I immediately reply with: "Haha i dont get rejected, I just find out if she has good taste"

And she shoots back "Well i have impeccable taste ;)"

And I didn't reply.

Anyway, any comments on the situation? The only errors I really see are jumping the gun too fast and asking her out. I don't know what I was thinking, I know that we're supposed to just go out until it was assumed we were dating.

Then again, it shows her sensibility, choosing not to start dating me the same day we had our first kiss/makeout.

And yes, I smelled her, teased her, pulled back alot, moved her shirt and kissed the bare skin, etc.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Big mistake but you rescued the situation well.


She likes you but may see you as being too keen now. You're right, you put her under pressure by asking her did she want to start dating. Just take things one date at a time and see what happens.


She likes you but do not chase her or she will run.
 
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Women want to earn a man. Handing yourself to her was a big no no, but I was really impressed to see your text responses. Still, asking her out too quick (or at all) will probably be stained in her mind for a while. Be really careful and stop TRYING to qualify yourself. Just have fun.
 
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Yeah some mistakes but like the other poster said you did rescue it well.

Good work.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Next time me and her hang out, I'm planning on NOT kissing her.

I'll touch her and be warm, but I'll be teasing her and seeing how far I can go without actually doing it.

An example is pushing her up against a wall, closing in, and backing off without an explanation. Or getting my face really close to hers and my lips close to hers... then pulling away. Smelling her.

Is this a good game plan? Opinions wanted.
 
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why are you holding back from trying to have sex with her? If she feels you might be afraid to do it with her that might also hurt your chances too of really dating her if thats what you want.
 
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the d-rock said:
why are you holding back from trying to have sex with her? If she feels you might be afraid to do it with her that might also hurt your chances too of really dating her if thats what you want.
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Well I live with my parents, and at the time they were home, so sex wasn't really a possibility. She was getting quite worked up though, at one point she wrapped her legs around my leg and I could feel her *****, it was really hot against my leg.
 
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Bump (Still looking for an answer, alll the other topics drowned this one out :p)
 
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You need to have a macro game plan, all you have is a micro game plan.

You need to be cool. Ask her out on dates, but no pressure to be bf/gf. Remember, you should always be asking the question in the back of your head "Is she good enough for me?" Be in the moment and watch out for red flags, don't pedestal her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Asked her if she wanted to chill tonight, she said she was busy all day.

She sings, and is still in High School, so I'm not too worked up about that.

Too bad for her, I'll be busy all day tomorrow and until thursday night, where I'll bes staying at a hotel... with nothing to do. Ill probably call her then.

We'll see if she texts tomorrow after me not talking to her all day.
 
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