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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So I accidentally ran across a video of my friend's fiancee getting double teamed on a porn site lol

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i don't really watch porn much at all anymore. But saturday was perfect. the wife was out with her friends, my kids are in arkansas with my mom, i got the house to my self. I planned the **** out lol. jUst like old times. gonna sit down and stroke one out to some good old fashion porn.


so i'm looking online. at a porn site that i am known to visit when i am looking for porn. I like homemde porn. So i'm looking and i see this chick that looks a lot like this girl that a friend of mine from the horse track is engaged to. Then I click on the link and im like it REALLLLY looks like it's her down to the tattoo on her left leg. Obviously this video was taken maybe 6-8 years ago but i'm like man this really could be her. Then i actually look at the link of the name and realize her name is litearlly in the title of the ****ing video lol.


I admit, got off lol. she took those ****s like a ****ing champ.


after getting off lol, i call my friend and tell him that he needs too come over. He comes over. I show him the video. He confronts her about it and she's like it's not me. even though we have the same tatoo at the same place and this person looks just like me and my name is in the video lol it's not me.


You know what really gets me about this and i think my friend feels the same way. it's not even the ****ing video. i mean, she was ovbiously drunk as ****, she goes out when she's 22-23 years old to a club, gets plastered, hooks up with 2 dudes and some dude pulls out a phone and reccords it. it's been known to happen. but she told him she doesn't like to do anal which according to the video, is not the case lol
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'm just wondering what you thought would happen after you showed your friend the video?
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i don't really watch porn much at all anymore. But saturday was perfect. the wife was out with her friends, my kids are in arkansas with my mom, i got the house to my self. I planned the **** out lol. jUst like old times. gonna sit down and stroke one out to some good old fashion porn.


so i'm looking online. at a porn site that i am known to visit when i am looking for porn. I like homemde porn. So i'm looking and i see this chick that looks a lot like this girl that a friend of mine from the horse track is engaged to. Then I click on the link and im like it REALLLLY looks like it's her down to the tattoo on her left leg. Obviously this video was taken maybe 6-8 years ago but i'm like man this really could be her. Then i actually look at the link of the name and realize her name is litearlly in the title of the ****ing video lol.


I admit, got off lol. she took those ****s like a ****ing champ.


after getting off lol, i call my friend and tell him that he needs too come over. He comes over. I show him the video. He confronts her about it and she's like it's not me. even though we have the same tatoo at the same place and this person looks just like me and my name is in the video lol it's not me.


You know what really gets me about this and i think my friend feels the same way. it's not even the ****ing video. i mean, she was ovbiously drunk as ****, she goes out when she's 22-23 years old to a club, gets plastered, hooks up with 2 dudes and some dude pulls out a phone and reccords it. it's been known to happen. but she told him she doesn't like to do anal which according to the video, is not the case lol
Is he going to keep her or kick her?
 

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after getting off lol, i call my friend and tell him that he needs too come over. He comes over. I show him the video. He confronts her about it and she's like it's not me. even though we have the same tatoo at the same place and this person looks just like me and my name is in the video lol it's not me.


You know what really gets me about this and i think my friend feels the same way. it's not even the ****ing video. i mean, she was ovbiously drunk as ****, she goes out when she's 22-23 years old to a club, gets plastered, hooks up with 2 dudes and some dude pulls out a phone and reccords it. it's been known to happen. but she told him she doesn't like to do anal which according to the video, is not the case lol
Lol, that's funny. About how long ago was the video done? You said she was about 22 - 23 in the video, how old is she now?

See me personally, I know most women have done wh0ring shyt....hell...I've done wh0ring shyt. But if I'm ever going to marry someone they have to be 100% honest with me JUST LIKE I am 100% honest with them. The FACT that this bytch is lying about the video, lying about anal sex, and lying about having even made videos like this (there most likely are more) are what are red flags to me, not the fact that she was 22, single and enjoying her life at the time.

I've said it before, I even expect that if I'm married to a chick for 20 years, I expect her to cheat! It's blue pill/Disney land shyt to think it won't happen. All I ask is that you don't fvck another piece of shyt in my house, put a condom on, and we exchange a "cheat for a cheat". So you get to fvck your side piece on Friday and I get to fvck mine! That's the deal!

Lol, that might sound weird but the reality is that if you really want longevity, it's things like this that are going to have to be managed.
 

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Lol, that's funny. About how long ago was the video done? You said she was about 22 - 23 in the video, how old is she now?

See me personally, I know most women have done wh0ring shyt....hell...I've done wh0ring shyt. But if I'm ever going to marry someone they have to be 100% honest with me JUST LIKE I am 100% honest with them. The FACT that this bytch is lying about the video, lying about anal sex, and lying about having even made videos like this (there most likely are more) are what are red flags to me, not the fact that she was 22, single and enjoying her life at the time.

I've said it before, I even expect that if I'm married to a chick for 20 years, I expect her to cheat! It's blue pill/Disney land shyt to think it won't happen. All I ask is that you don't fvck another piece of shyt in my house, put a condom on, and we exchange a "cheat for a cheat". So you get to fvck your side piece on Friday and I get to fvck mine! That's the deal!

Lol, that might sound weird but the reality is that if you really want longevity, it's things like this that are going to have to be managed.
she's 30. if i had to guess, this was taken around the time when she was 20-22 years old. it's obviously her but it was a while ago.

i mean if my wife cheats she can auto pack her **** and get the **** out lol, but i agree for the most part. I even tried to play nice detective. I even tried to tell her look. We get it. No really lol I GET IT. No one wants to admit they got tag teamed and it's filmed on line, but i mean, we've been there. I've done some **** that i sure as hell don't want to be filmed that''s much worse than having 100% legal sex with 2 men at the same time.

So i tell her look, and I mean I like the girl. She's sweet, she really does love my friend, I have no doubt about that. I don't want them to break up over something this silly. So I'm like look here, if you just come fuccking straight we can play this out like look okay i did it, it happened it was 10 years ago, i was drunk, the ******* pulled out a video cam and i didn't realize what happened until later. There are no more videos (are there lol, so i can find them lol?), you know, but you know, i can work with that lol. that's a workable situation.

But by saying this isn't you, not only are you a *****, you're a lying *****. by you saying it's not you, and it obviously being you, ,now everything you said comes into question. What if this isn't the only video? what if he does his detective work and finds one more peie of hoe work and decides he doesn't want to marry you anymore? i mean ****, it's you lol. you know it's you,, i know it's you,, he knows it's you the two guys who drilled you here know it's you lol. you hanging on to the hope that he doesn't believe this is you is futile because 1. he's not an idiot and 2. i won't let him because i know just as well as you do that this is you lol.


the older i've gotten the more i've learned patience. i told him to give her a week and don't bring it up, let her come around to the idea of spilling the bbeans mentally in her own head. she will.she's not an idiot either .She just hasn't mentally accecpted that this is out there and h e knows about it.


i told him that she owes him an anal for lying tho lol
 

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Yes he does need to know this. He is going to marry her. He needs to know everything possible about her so he can make an informed decision to keep her or kick her to the curb.
I agree. It always sucks to be the LAST one to know and everyone knows even your friends.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she's 30. if i had to guess, this was taken around the time when she was 20-22 years old. it's obviously her but it was a while ago.

i mean if my wife cheats she can auto pack her **** and get the **** out lol, but i agree for the most part. I even tried to play nice detective. I even tried to tell her look. We get it. No really lol I GET IT. No one wants to admit they got tag teamed and it's filmed on line, but i mean, we've been there. I've done some **** that i sure as hell don't want to be filmed that''s much worse than having 100% legal sex with 2 men at the same time.

So i tell her look, and I mean I like the girl. She's sweet, she really does love my friend, I have no doubt about that. I don't want them to break up over something this silly. So I'm like look here, if you just come fuccking straight we can play this out like look okay i did it, it happened it was 10 years ago, i was drunk, the ******* pulled out a video cam and i didn't realize what happened until later. There are no more videos (are there lol, so i can find them lol?), you know, but you know, i can work with that lol. that's a workable situation.

But by saying this isn't you, not only are you a *****, you're a lying *****. by you saying it's not you, and it obviously being you, ,now everything you said comes into question. What if this isn't the only video? what if he does his detective work and finds one more peie of hoe work and decides he doesn't want to marry you anymore? i mean ****, it's you lol. you know it's you,, i know it's you,, he knows it's you the two guys who drilled you here know it's you lol. you hanging on to the hope that he doesn't believe this is you is futile because 1. he's not an idiot and 2. i won't let him because i know just as well as you do that this is you lol.


the older i've gotten the more i've learned patience. i told him to give her a week and don't bring it up, let her come around to the idea of spilling the bbeans mentally in her own head. she will.she's not an idiot either .She just hasn't mentally accecpted that this is out there and h e knows about it.


i told him that she owes him an anal for lying tho lol
That last line...
 

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I'm just tagging this thread because it has some serious potential to turn epic.
 

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This has happened to me twice. I found nude modeling pics of my cousins wife online.

I found another video of a girl I knew from my job twerking in a g-string online on shakinit.com.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If they used her name in the video title, and she was never a pro, then it's likely revenge porn. Somebody put it out there to screw her over. I'm with everybody who said lying about the anal was the worst. Can you imagine being denied anal by this woman when you can see that she clearly liked it at one time? lol
I realize that the world has changed somewhat, but I'd tend to stay away from women who have done MMF threesomes as an LTR. FFM, now that's a whole other beast, but MMF chicks are genuinely dirty. Like the groupies who chase drummers lol - the dirtiest and freakiest of the herd.
 

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I can't believe a man wouldn't need to know..... She does anal for free. You provide a roof over her head, feed her and all of the sudden, she doesn't like anal????? ANYTHING you've done before, you'll do for me. I'm not a second class citizen just because I put a ring on it. Don't like it? f'ng leave. Privacy my azz, it's ONLINE. He'd see it soon enough.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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