thelonewolflegend
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Can i just invite her tomorrow in first text or do i need to ask her couple questions about her day n ****??
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So hows appropriate way to get them out on dates usually?? Aftet 1st meet
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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yea ask a couple questions first, talk to her, like ask her what she did today, and another question in relation to her answer, and then comment on that answer, ask her about her hobbies/job/career plans/goals whatever the ****, talk to her a bit, and then ask her what shes doing tomorrow, and regardless of if she starts naming a billion things shes gota do, invite her anyways, but dont like ask her, tell her, letts hang out (dont mention dates please) if she says no ask when are we going then? her answer there will say a lot, bust her balls if she says she doesnt know, rip her apart, in a nice way, or just say ill pick up saturday at 8 then.
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There are several steps.
1) Get her to be attracted.
2) Get her number.
3) Give her a cheek kiss. She will hopefully make a noise when you do this. She will play a note. Ideally she will turn so that you accidentally kiss her lips.
4) Get her to reply and have a conversation.
5) Get her to initiate a text conversation.
6) Offer a date.
7) Get her to show up.
This usually takes several weeks with the hottest women. You have to slowly become part of her regular circle.
1) Get her to be attracted.
2) Get her number.
3) Give her a cheek kiss. She will hopefully make a noise when you do this. She will play a note. Ideally she will turn so that you accidentally kiss her lips.
4) Get her to reply and have a conversation.
5) Get her to initiate a text conversation.
6) Offer a date.
7) Get her to show up.
This usually takes several weeks with the hottest women. You have to slowly become part of her regular circle.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Usually works alright if you just ask how her day has been. Then you comment briefly about what you were doing. It helps if you can say something charming, but that isn't necessary. The whole convo doesn't have to be long at all. Then you say, "I was thinking about doing [blank], if you want to tag along." It's best if you can offer two alternative days, because she might busy on one of the days. I think that you should generally give 48 hours' notice if feasible, but it's not absolutely required.
Preferably, the whole conversation should be 5 minutes or less.
Preferably, the whole conversation should be 5 minutes or less.