"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
So.. here's what happened to get me to post in the first place
- Thread starter jackofasses
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
jackofasses
Don Juan
reset said:Use it or lose it, is how the saying goes.
Haha.. no the blah was to erase what i had originally put.. just didn't know what else to write. Reading that "How to achieve emotional control" thing.
I really have a hard time stepping out of myself and being the observer though. It's the same reason i disassociate from other peoples feelings. I find it difficult to put myself in someone elses shoes and to observe things from the other side.
jackofasses
Don Juan
This forum is about self improvement.. so why don't you work on that sociopath thing of yours.NickBe said:That is actually a symptom of a sociopathic person, obviously from your crying you are not as bad as me but you could very well be a sociopath. That could be why your relationships never work out, it could be why you sabotage yourself.
Don't get me wrong, I care about other people, I care about their feelings.. But seldom do i think of that BEFORE doing something.
You may not be sociopathic.. just an extremely negative person.
I had my own issue with a chick that turned MY world upside down... I was completely lost man. And like you, I had spent my whole damn life thinking I was a victim, and that things were happening to me to make me feel bad.
My parents, my family, the kids in school who picked on me, the religion I was raised in... all that stuff added up and made me feel like I was a helpless loser.
NOTHING changed until I finally said, "that's it. I've had it. I've got one life and I am going to do whatever the hell it takes to make sure it's a good one."
It has NOT been easy... but it has been WORTH IT.
Maybe this drama with this chick will be enough to just slap you silly... if you choose to make this a reason to change , it's all uphill from here.
So, for the final time... take the suggestions I and the other guys have given you, do some QUALITY reading...
and maybe I'll be talking to you again in the future. Not for awhile though... you've got a lot to process. If you keep talking about it, it's just going to make you more confused. Take your time, do it right. It can be done.
For a guy you don't like that much, and who's opinion you don't care about, you sure are investing a lot of energy into him and his opinions... think about that.jackofasses said:This forum is about self improvement.. so why don't you work on that sociopath thing of yours.
Don't get me wrong, I care about other people, I care about their feelings.. But seldom do i think of that BEFORE doing something.
You may not be sociopathic.. just an extremely negative person.
Take care, I am officially out of this thread. :crazy:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
As far as I can see being who I am has allowed me a degree of success very few on earth will ever have.
By the way I am not a negative person. Nobody knows the truth about me sure I talk about it here but in real life no. I create an illusion that makes people comfortable and happy.
jackofasses
Don Juan
THAT hits home. Not so much for the girls.. but man.. all the crap that ceaselessly seems to pile up on my doorstep.. especially this year...
damn...