Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
So.. here's what happened to get me to post in the first place
- Thread starter jackofasses
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jackofasses
Don Juan
reset said:Use it or lose it, is how the saying goes.
Haha.. no the blah was to erase what i had originally put.. just didn't know what else to write. Reading that "How to achieve emotional control" thing.
I really have a hard time stepping out of myself and being the observer though. It's the same reason i disassociate from other peoples feelings. I find it difficult to put myself in someone elses shoes and to observe things from the other side.
jackofasses
Don Juan
This forum is about self improvement.. so why don't you work on that sociopath thing of yours.NickBe said:That is actually a symptom of a sociopathic person, obviously from your crying you are not as bad as me but you could very well be a sociopath. That could be why your relationships never work out, it could be why you sabotage yourself.
Don't get me wrong, I care about other people, I care about their feelings.. But seldom do i think of that BEFORE doing something.
You may not be sociopathic.. just an extremely negative person.
I had my own issue with a chick that turned MY world upside down... I was completely lost man. And like you, I had spent my whole damn life thinking I was a victim, and that things were happening to me to make me feel bad.
My parents, my family, the kids in school who picked on me, the religion I was raised in... all that stuff added up and made me feel like I was a helpless loser.
NOTHING changed until I finally said, "that's it. I've had it. I've got one life and I am going to do whatever the hell it takes to make sure it's a good one."
It has NOT been easy... but it has been WORTH IT.
Maybe this drama with this chick will be enough to just slap you silly... if you choose to make this a reason to change , it's all uphill from here.
So, for the final time... take the suggestions I and the other guys have given you, do some QUALITY reading...
and maybe I'll be talking to you again in the future. Not for awhile though... you've got a lot to process. If you keep talking about it, it's just going to make you more confused. Take your time, do it right. It can be done.
For a guy you don't like that much, and who's opinion you don't care about, you sure are investing a lot of energy into him and his opinions... think about that.jackofasses said:This forum is about self improvement.. so why don't you work on that sociopath thing of yours.
Don't get me wrong, I care about other people, I care about their feelings.. But seldom do i think of that BEFORE doing something.
You may not be sociopathic.. just an extremely negative person.
Take care, I am officially out of this thread. :crazy:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
As far as I can see being who I am has allowed me a degree of success very few on earth will ever have.
By the way I am not a negative person. Nobody knows the truth about me sure I talk about it here but in real life no. I create an illusion that makes people comfortable and happy.
jackofasses
Don Juan
THAT hits home. Not so much for the girls.. but man.. all the crap that ceaselessly seems to pile up on my doorstep.. especially this year...
damn...