So just to bring you guys up to speed. I was/am interested in this girl from work and from the signals I was getting she was interested in me. So today on MSN I asked her for her cell after a brief chat and she didn't reply back for a bit then went 'busy' and then just offline. Now i don't know what happened to prompt this but I don't gotta a good feeling about this lol. I see her on Thursday at work. How do i act?? Like nothing happened..I still do like her but I don't know what the hell happened. My main question is how do i handle this situation...?? I usually talk to her at work but it is minimal. Also i usually leave the workplace with her ..we walk to our bus stops (different stops). So should i just not bother on thursday cuz I really don't know what i should do now
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
so here's a fun one..
- Thread starter ashrivas
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Just pretend nothing happened. That is the only thing you can do for now, until you get a feel of how she felt about that. Don't ask her, don't react, just go about the normal things you usually do, even your interactions with her.
If she's not interested, she will no longer be giving you those "signals" she was before. If she keeps giving you the "singnals", then you ask her in person.
If she's not interested, she will no longer be giving you those "signals" she was before. If she keeps giving you the "singnals", then you ask her in person.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Igetit!
Moderator
I assume this is the same girl you spoke about in this thread of yours.ashrivas said:
In that thread.,Slaog suggested you tell her you had plans to go somewhere and invite her to come along,and I said that whatever you do,to do it in person.
Were these ideas not good enough?
Asking for her number over the internet was a bad idea.
It makes you look scared/afraid because you (like you said) you've known her for a month,and had plenty of opportunities to ask her out in person,but didn't do it.
It was like you had to wait until you were behind a computer screen before you had enough courage to "man up" and ask for her number.
This would be ok if you two had met over the internet,but to ask for the number online after being around her for a month in person...not good.
808
Don Juan
I get the idea she DID bring it up herself and said it was weird.
I'd personally laugh it off, and move on.
I'd personally laugh it off, and move on.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes it's the same girl. I misinterpreted it. I thought the number I could get on MSN but when I ask her to chill I should do that in person. So damage done eh. What would be YOUR advice to me going forward. This time I'll make sure that I understand it and learn from this.Igetit! said:
Also, I am guessing all chances with this particular one are lost?
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
If she brings it up, I seriously doubt she will, let her express herself and explain what exactly was weird about it. If it is obvious she doesn't like you, then just acknowledge it and walk away.ashrivas said:
I've read your other posts here in the forum, and by FAR the best advice I can give you is read all posts, books, DJ bible, that are available here.
Resorting to the forum only after some kind of damage has been done, is bound to fail and let you dissapointed for a long-time.
If you walk to the bus stop with her regularly, obviously it is very weird to ask her over IM for her number. This shouldn't even been a question.
By some of your posts it's clear that your getting in trouble by not really try to understand how things work.
She went busy before going offline, so she has an excuse to give you. Push the issue to hard, and you'll lose any chances you might have...
It's like hunting. You need to load the weapon before you see the target, or else it will always be a fruitless endeavor...
Resorting to the forum only after some kind of damage has been done, is bound to fail and let you dissapointed for a long-time.
If you walk to the bus stop with her regularly, obviously it is very weird to ask her over IM for her number. This shouldn't even been a question.
By some of your posts it's clear that your getting in trouble by not really try to understand how things work.
She went busy before going offline, so she has an excuse to give you. Push the issue to hard, and you'll lose any chances you might have...
It's like hunting. You need to load the weapon before you see the target, or else it will always be a fruitless endeavor...