"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NeW2TheGame

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Sorry if this comes across as spam, but man...is it me or is it really hard to let it go/not care?

I'm saying this because i just came back from lunch with a girl, when i dropped her off she said "we better do this again sometime", god knows when "sometime" is......sigh

I know you guys think i should probably play it cool, and not act desperate...but damn it's so hard :(

That was the second time we went out together by the way...

Anyone "feel" what i am saying? And any advices on how i should go about the next step?

Cheers.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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once these events become more commonplace, you stop worrying so much about each one. Just keep with it.

And read the Book of Pook if you haven't yet.
 

NeW2TheGame

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But the more i go to these 'events", the more "friend" i seem, and thats exactly what i don't want?
 

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Your question was how to feel less. You feel less by hanging out with girls constantly so they aren't as novel to you. This has nothing to do with friendship. Over time you will gain confidence by being suave constantly.


As for your second question: If you've gone out with this girl twice and she said she wants to do it again, then ask her out again. I'd wait maybe a week (and during that week, look around for other girls to date).
 

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Don´t be scared to take it to the next level. Life has a lot to offer for the ones who have the courage to ask for it. So just go for it!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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whats "neg hits?"
 
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