"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So hard to "not care"

NeW2TheGame

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Sorry if this comes across as spam, but man...is it me or is it really hard to let it go/not care?

I'm saying this because i just came back from lunch with a girl, when i dropped her off she said "we better do this again sometime", god knows when "sometime" is......sigh

I know you guys think i should probably play it cool, and not act desperate...but damn it's so hard :(

That was the second time we went out together by the way...

Anyone "feel" what i am saying? And any advices on how i should go about the next step?

Cheers.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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once these events become more commonplace, you stop worrying so much about each one. Just keep with it.

And read the Book of Pook if you haven't yet.
 

NeW2TheGame

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But the more i go to these 'events", the more "friend" i seem, and thats exactly what i don't want?
 

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Your question was how to feel less. You feel less by hanging out with girls constantly so they aren't as novel to you. This has nothing to do with friendship. Over time you will gain confidence by being suave constantly.


As for your second question: If you've gone out with this girl twice and she said she wants to do it again, then ask her out again. I'd wait maybe a week (and during that week, look around for other girls to date).
 

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Don´t be scared to take it to the next level. Life has a lot to offer for the ones who have the courage to ask for it. So just go for it!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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whats "neg hits?"
 
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