"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheMonkeyKing

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Got on the train this morning. Really, really hot birdy got on at the same time - probably a 8.5-9 on a causal Friday morning. Made-up I would say she'd be pushing a 9.5 on the visual.

She looked at me getting on the train and kind of wry smile. And again a couple more times while on the train, looked back again as she got off the train and looked again having got off at her stop, again with the wry smiles.

I did nothing. Nearly got off the train to chase her. But didn't. I feel physically sick. Gotta get on the train again until I see her again. AAHHHHH!!

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sylvester the cat

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so you should be. missed opportunity.

learn from it and don't make the same mistake.

forget her though. abundance mentality.
 

AttackFormation

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Dissociate HER from the situation. You'll see girls like her again - it's the opportunity to improve your life you really missed.
 

Mr Wright

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I hate when this happens. I just freeze up and get too in my head. This is one of the reasons why I'm just trying to become more sociable. If you naturally just chat to people and shoot the shït, this sort of thing would be just another chat of many that you have during the day. Lesson learnt.
 

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I remember those days when that would happen to me.
if anything it should be a confidence boost for you because now you know that hbs want your attention.

good for you.

next time, if you can't talk to her for your own sake, at least do it for us. Lol jk
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

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