so girls keep telling me i'm such a nice guy

[bukowski_merit]

and i'm still banging them...

i know some people consider a girl thinking that you're nice to be a kiss of death; but you definitely can still get top quality girls while being perceived as a nice guy.

I basically:

- keep them laughing (this is naturally who i am)
- stay unpredictable (again, this comes naturally)
- touch them often
- get them talking about sex asap

that's pretty much all i do.

i think the key is that - i'm nice. but i'm not corny. i'm not a boring conversationalist.

and i think it's also worth noting that i'm not outgoing. i hate crowds. i don't have a phone. i make 25k a year and live in a small studio apartment (i do dress very good though). girls often call me cute, but very rarely do i hear that i'm hot or sexy (so i'm like a 6-6.5 to most girls).

but basically - i'm saying - why are some people afraid for being perceived as nice and genuine? if a girl tells you that she likes you because you're a nice guy - why is that a bad thing?

 

[demonic]

Basically because a "nice guy" is non threatning....kinda like one of her girlfriends ....you needa be the guy who if she gave you half the chance you'd **** her!

Demonic

 

[bukowski_merit]

i F**K 80% of the girls i set out for... even though i am perceived as being a nice guy (this doesn't actually mean i am - i very much am self-absorbed and women find that out a few days in - but by then it's normally too late for them to take back what they gave me)

i don't think your sexual openess and horniness has anything to do with being nice or a bad boy. i make it very clear that i'm a freak in bed, but i'm also nice.

 

[demonic]

i F**K 80% of the girls i set out for... even though i am perceived as being a nice guy (this doesn't actually mean i am - i very much am self-absorbed and women find that out a few days in - but by then it's normally too late for them to take back what they gave me)

i don't think your sexual openess and horniness has anything to do with being nice or a bad boy. i make it very clear that i'm a freak in bed, but i'm also nice.

So your saying being the "nice guy" is cool...aslong as they perceive you as it and your actually not?....

Demonic

 

[Crazy Asian]

it's just a misconception on this site.

people her are often being seen as a "nice guy", one who sucks up to people and chases girls around and can't stand up for themselves. So they change to the complete opposite in fear of coming off as "nice"

they are confusing this with just a guy being nice.

 

[demonic]

See i'm not a nice guy anymore without even trying, i'm a ****head....and it's not cause i'm trying to be...i'm just sick of women and now i'm not bothered by then so i manipulate them and everything...don't blame me blame society for turning me that way

Demonic

 

[Crazy Asian]

i used to be a jerk like you too.
but you are left with any real friends.
and u are just left empty.
and girls don't even like guys that are mean to the people around them and seem to be pissed off.
demonic, i'll bet that you will see this sometime and start being more positive.
or maybe you're experiencing something totally different.....who knows.

 

[demonic]

i used to be a jerk like you too.
but you are left with any real friends.
and u are just left empty.
and girls don't even like guys that are mean to the people around them and seem to be pissed off.
demonic, i'll bet that you will see this sometime and start being more positive.
or maybe you're experiencing something totally different.....who knows.

I do feel like i could do with alot more friends, i do have like 3-4 good friends...but your right.

it's not like i'm TRYING to be an ass, i guess after a bad relationship i gave up trying to be something i'm not and just said and did things i wanted to do.

Demonic

 

[bukowski_merit]

So your saying being the "nice guy" is cool...aslong as they perceive you as it and your actually not?....

Demonic

yes, that's pretty much what i'm saying...
as long as you're not a push-over, as long as you don't fall in love after one date and start crowding her (like most nice guys do), as long as you don't act too gentlemanly, as long as you show that you're not a friend; that you're into sex - then it shouldn't be too bad for you. those were all mistakes i made when i was growing up... when i was the typically 'nice guy'...

unfortunately, most 'nice guys' who get converted into seducers or whatever - think they have to transform into another form of person. i believe that there's a few things you need to know and change about yourself (your appearance being just as important as the rest) and that's it. i don't think you need to be a jerk, @sshole, or anything...

 

[Crazy Asian]

I do feel like i could do with alot more friends, i do have like 3-4 good friends...but your right.

it's not like i'm TRYING to be an ass, i guess after a bad relationship i gave up trying to be something i'm not and just said and did things i wanted to do.

Demonic

yeah i know man.
it's like ur pissed at the world and you don't want to deal with that sh1t anymore.
you shield yourself with a jerk attitude.
I think i was just afraid of putting myself out there again.
It's just fear of what you don't know.

 

[demonic]

Guess it's gonna take alot of time, atleast i won't be called a "nice guy" anytime soon though

 

[bukowski_merit]

I do feel like i could do with alot more friends, i do have like 3-4 good friends...but your right.

it's not like i'm TRYING to be an ass, i guess after a bad relationship i gave up trying to be something i'm not and just said and did things i wanted to do.

Demonic

i can understand that. i found sites like these and started reading the ebooks and stuff back like 7 years ago because i had a string of 2-3 straight girls who i 'nice guyed' to death (these were girls who were very interested in me when we meant and then lost interest quickly, but i tried to carry it on 4-5 months out of desperation; never scoring with one of them because i was in friendship zone before i knew it.)

i guess i just read all this material and take from it what i think i can apply to who i already am. i'm naturally a nice guy, i naturally don't wanna hurt women, i naturally am honest. but when i was a the corny gentlemanly nice guy i used to be - that really wasn't me. i am sexual, i do mostly just want to have sex with them. i am crazy; so why should i choose my words like an actor reading a script?

but at the same time - i am not naturally a jerk or an @sshole; and way too much drama comes to my friends who are like that. so i'm content being natural, but knowing what lines not to cross and what lines to draw myself.

 

[bukowski_merit]

it's just a misconception on this site.

people her are often being seen as a "nice guy", one who sucks up to people and chases girls around and can't stand up for themselves. So they change to the complete opposite in fear of coming off as "nice"

they are confusing this with just a guy being nice.

very true man... i used to be stunned when a girl who i was getting with would reveal to me that she thought i was 'such a nice guy. so different from who i normally date.' because i have been taught on here that that's a kiss of death.