Maybe I should consider myself "lucky," but I'm just ridiculously salty about it...
I matched with this girl on Bumble, 25 years old, and she started right out the gate being pretty damn aggressive. Not like sexually aggressive, but just acting really interested. She told me she wasn't looking for something serious because she recently got out of a relationship where her ex cheated on her, so she just wanted a fvck buddy (and I was totally cool with that). So we talk over text for like a week. A LOT about sex, how she's horny a lot, how her ex "wasn't very good" in that aspect, and how she wants to go through a "B-D-S-M" checklist. I want to make it a point that there was a lot of talk and a lot of hype. So after all this talk and hype we finally meet for a drink. It's heavily implied beforehand that we're going to fvck. So drinks go well, lots of laughs, then we go back to my place and I fvck the sh!t out of her. She also acted like she was sex famished in bed. Hard kissing, going right to suck my d!ck as soon as I pulled my pants down, etc. Afterwards we talk for a bit, she doesn't seem to want to fvck again (had been acting tired-ish the whole night), and she leaves.
After she leaves she sends me this text:
HER: "Hey, just got home. Thanks for a good time tonight. I want to apologize for getting out of there so quickly. I honestly just don't think I'm ready to be out there yet. I thought I was, but I'm not and that's not fair to you or me because I need time to heal and get over this."
ME: "Well can't say I'm not disappointed because you're sexy as fvck and fun to hang with, but I've been there so I understand. Feel better."
HER: "Yeah unfortunately I think it's gonna take a little longer than I expected. Thanks for being understanding and I hope so too."
Wasn't entirely sure what to make of it. If it's been less than 3 months since her sh!tty ex relationship I'd believe her. Over 3-5 months I might call bullsh!t. Not sure when she got out of it though.
So a couple days later this other girl I was FWB with and me end up breaking it off. Then a week later I say "fvck it" and decide to text the Bumble chick again...
ME: "I have to say, *Bumble Chick*, I'm pretty upset that I didn't get to hear your "come to bed" playlist." (Inside joke about her having a "sex playlist")
No response. All I can think is "wtf" because there's absolutely no reason for her to ghost and not at least stay friendly. a few days later I'm horny with no other prospects and nothing to lose, so I decide to text her again. I tell her we had great sexual chemistry and it would be a shame not to go through that B-D-S-M checklist she was hyping up so much, and also say it would probably get her mind off her ex. No response again. At this point I'm thinking she's either in a "I hate men" phase, or her excuse was total bullsh!t.
So at this point you're probably thinking... Why not just say fvck her, let it go, and game other girls? You're right. 100% right. However, she was totally my type. Fit, great ass, good in bed, and pretty. If she wasn't so god damn attractive to me I honestly wouldn't care at all. I actually met and fvcked a different girl last night, but wasn't that into her and don't even want to hangout again even though she was almost TOO into me and complimenting me TOO much.
Always ironic how this sh!t works out. I don't even believe it's "you want what you can't have," in my case it's usually "you can't have what you want."
Anyways, this kind of behavior always confuses me. Thoughts?
I matched with this girl on Bumble, 25 years old, and she started right out the gate being pretty damn aggressive. Not like sexually aggressive, but just acting really interested. She told me she wasn't looking for something serious because she recently got out of a relationship where her ex cheated on her, so she just wanted a fvck buddy (and I was totally cool with that). So we talk over text for like a week. A LOT about sex, how she's horny a lot, how her ex "wasn't very good" in that aspect, and how she wants to go through a "B-D-S-M" checklist. I want to make it a point that there was a lot of talk and a lot of hype. So after all this talk and hype we finally meet for a drink. It's heavily implied beforehand that we're going to fvck. So drinks go well, lots of laughs, then we go back to my place and I fvck the sh!t out of her. She also acted like she was sex famished in bed. Hard kissing, going right to suck my d!ck as soon as I pulled my pants down, etc. Afterwards we talk for a bit, she doesn't seem to want to fvck again (had been acting tired-ish the whole night), and she leaves.
After she leaves she sends me this text:
HER: "Hey, just got home. Thanks for a good time tonight. I want to apologize for getting out of there so quickly. I honestly just don't think I'm ready to be out there yet. I thought I was, but I'm not and that's not fair to you or me because I need time to heal and get over this."
ME: "Well can't say I'm not disappointed because you're sexy as fvck and fun to hang with, but I've been there so I understand. Feel better."
HER: "Yeah unfortunately I think it's gonna take a little longer than I expected. Thanks for being understanding and I hope so too."
Wasn't entirely sure what to make of it. If it's been less than 3 months since her sh!tty ex relationship I'd believe her. Over 3-5 months I might call bullsh!t. Not sure when she got out of it though.
So a couple days later this other girl I was FWB with and me end up breaking it off. Then a week later I say "fvck it" and decide to text the Bumble chick again...
ME: "I have to say, *Bumble Chick*, I'm pretty upset that I didn't get to hear your "come to bed" playlist." (Inside joke about her having a "sex playlist")
No response. All I can think is "wtf" because there's absolutely no reason for her to ghost and not at least stay friendly. a few days later I'm horny with no other prospects and nothing to lose, so I decide to text her again. I tell her we had great sexual chemistry and it would be a shame not to go through that B-D-S-M checklist she was hyping up so much, and also say it would probably get her mind off her ex. No response again. At this point I'm thinking she's either in a "I hate men" phase, or her excuse was total bullsh!t.
So at this point you're probably thinking... Why not just say fvck her, let it go, and game other girls? You're right. 100% right. However, she was totally my type. Fit, great ass, good in bed, and pretty. If she wasn't so god damn attractive to me I honestly wouldn't care at all. I actually met and fvcked a different girl last night, but wasn't that into her and don't even want to hangout again even though she was almost TOO into me and complimenting me TOO much.
Always ironic how this sh!t works out. I don't even believe it's "you want what you can't have," in my case it's usually "you can't have what you want."
Anyways, this kind of behavior always confuses me. Thoughts?
