"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So frustrated...
- Thread starter Pipizito
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I was never good with girls. I am 15 and never had a girlfriend. I have read and tried ALOT of things on this site.
Its pretty easy for me to talk to ANY girl but after that, I screw it up. So what happened was this, I met this girl at a party at 3 am. She was pretty hot and seemed really cool. I started flirting with her, using kino as hell and we were really into each other.
We didnt hook up there but almost. Always giving massages, kisses and using kino one with each other. So, she invinted me to go to the club. I thought "Cool, gonna hook up with her there"
Was happy as hell. When I get to the club she starts talking to her friend and 10 minutes later is hooking with him! I mean like, wtf? Is she just a *****? Should I still try to hook with her? Many thanks!
Thanks for the replies and excuse the long post.
I'm sure you'll solve this soon enough. Try not to label yourself as someone who is bad with females. Remind yourself that if was just a skill deficiency, not a problem with you as a person.
one word.... NEXT.
I wouldn't waste any more energy on her. Focus on improving your ability to handle all women. (ie not just trying to figure out one girl in particular)
Cool. Thanks man!
Damn, that was what I was guessing. Really hot the girl, oh well, plenty fish in the sea.
Sounds like good advice. Thanks man!
This girl said she wanted to go to the beach with me today and asked my cell number. If she gives me a call should I say no?
EDIT- She just called and said "Do you wanna come to my house? (Name of the guy he hooked with) is coming, but you can come too if you want.." I just kept thinking "Damn *****!" but said "No thanks, gonna play paintball with a bunch of friend." This girl is suck a slut its unbelivable!
Sounds like she craves attention. She probably wants to flirt with both of you and make you two compete over her.
Also, I don't know if you have checked but there is a high school forum. You would probably find feedback there that is more relevant to your situation in life. Not that handling women varies that much when you get older, it is just that high school usually has its own set of problems:
-popularity contests
-rumors
-girls only dating older guys with cars
-in crowd and out crowd
Have fun at paintball!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.