"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
So frustrated...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I was never good with girls. I am 15 and never had a girlfriend. I have read and tried ALOT of things on this site.
Its pretty easy for me to talk to ANY girl but after that, I screw it up. So what happened was this, I met this girl at a party at 3 am. She was pretty hot and seemed really cool. I started flirting with her, using kino as hell and we were really into each other.
We didnt hook up there but almost. Always giving massages, kisses and using kino one with each other. So, she invinted me to go to the club. I thought "Cool, gonna hook up with her there"
Was happy as hell. When I get to the club she starts talking to her friend and 10 minutes later is hooking with him! I mean like, wtf? Is she just a *****? Should I still try to hook with her? Many thanks!
Thanks for the replies and excuse the long post.
I'm sure you'll solve this soon enough. Try not to label yourself as someone who is bad with females. Remind yourself that if was just a skill deficiency, not a problem with you as a person.
one word.... NEXT.
I wouldn't waste any more energy on her. Focus on improving your ability to handle all women. (ie not just trying to figure out one girl in particular)
Cool. Thanks man!
Damn, that was what I was guessing. Really hot the girl, oh well, plenty fish in the sea.
Sounds like good advice. Thanks man!
This girl said she wanted to go to the beach with me today and asked my cell number. If she gives me a call should I say no?
EDIT- She just called and said "Do you wanna come to my house? (Name of the guy he hooked with) is coming, but you can come too if you want.." I just kept thinking "Damn *****!" but said "No thanks, gonna play paintball with a bunch of friend." This girl is suck a slut its unbelivable!
Sounds like she craves attention. She probably wants to flirt with both of you and make you two compete over her.
Also, I don't know if you have checked but there is a high school forum. You would probably find feedback there that is more relevant to your situation in life. Not that handling women varies that much when you get older, it is just that high school usually has its own set of problems:
-popularity contests
-rumors
-girls only dating older guys with cars
-in crowd and out crowd
Have fun at paintball!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.