Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So close, give me the last push now!

Zeus

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I have one problem thats holding me back from all the glory thats waiting for me, if i can overcome this.. The sky is the limit for me.

To break it down: I have seduced a good share off woman, and i feel damn good afterwards the confidence is sky high. But it like i still got this demon, this AFC **** in my head. It like that if i dont approach/pick up a girl in a couple of days i lose all the confindence and start to belive "oh shes good to me", "shes not intresed".. you know pure bull****. When i deep inside know that iam the great catch, i can ****ing seduce anyone,but the confindence is gone so it makes it so much harder.

So how can i find that little extra confindence when it all feels impossible?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sean O

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You seem to still think that you need to prove to yourself that you can get women. All you need to do is realize that you've already gotten more than enough proof of that. Just remind yourself of all the women who have ever liked you. It wasn't all a coincidence, bro - they liked you because you are a great catch! You don't need to verify that anymore constantly by getting a new number every couple of days; it's just who you are :up:.
 

Zeus

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Hehe yeah Sean, i like the sound of that :)
 

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Here's a question that might straighten your head:

i lose all the confindence and start to belive "oh shes good to me", "shes not intresed".. you know pure bull****. When i deep inside know that iam the great catch
What makes you such a great catch? What is it exactly that makes you better than the last 10 guys you've met?
 

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Zeus said:
I have one problem thats holding me back from all the glory thats waiting for me, if i can overcome this.. The sky is the limit for me.

To break it down: I have seduced a good share off woman, and i feel damn good afterwards the confidence is sky high. But it like i still got this demon, this AFC **** in my head. It like that if i dont approach/pick up a girl in a couple of days i lose all the confidence and start to believe "oh shes good to me", "shes not intresed".. you know pure bull****. When i deep inside know that iam the great catch, i can ****ing seduce anyone, but the confidence is gone so it makes it so much harder.

So how can i find that little extra confindence when it all feels impossible?
Quit caring! Each time you need a push grab your balls and tell yourself your not a chick your a man!! Nike said it best "Just Do It"!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sean O

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What makes you such a great catch? What is it exactly that makes you better than the last 10 guys you've met?
I should add to this a little, just so that you don't misinterpret what Phyzzle meant. He's not trying to talk down to you; he's trying to get you to list to yourself the qualities that make you an attractive man. And it's a good strategy. The more aware you are of your attractive qualities, the easier it will be to accept yourself as an attractive person.
 
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