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So are they ALL like that?

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No, generalizations are for stupid people who doesn't understand the nuances of reality.
You told me what you thought of my post, and now I'll tell you that's an incredibly naive response.

The title of this thread contained the acronym AWALT, but of course I do not believe EVERY SINGLE WOMAN is "like that". But what you call "sweeping generalizations" I'll just call stereotypes, which have stood the test of time because as a general rule they are true. And the stereotype of the female predator and divorce rape exists for a reason, and the story usually begins like this one, and I hope it doesn't happen to my friend. That's all.
 
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If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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If she's Jewish it could work out.
She's not, and it's actually interracial too.

Think he's smart enough to get a prenup?
Doubt it. He'd literally look me in the eyes and tell me she's "not like that." When I say he's blue pill, he's THE most blue pill guy I've ever called a friend.

Your friend is just trapped in the same annual consumerism regurgitation as the other 80% of western people.... "you need more and more and more money for the new phone/car/sofa/house/investment/wedding that you have to pay for in two years time".

What the fck is the point in giving up all that time to earn 250K when the government takes half anyway, and corporate industry/kids/wife take nearly all of the rest. What a horrendous waste of life.
You're a smart cookie my friend. I hope to join you on the path less traveled again soon.

Translation: fvck my corporate job, I'm looking for an out after just 3 months.

65k in new york? A hotel manager? That is certainly not a prestigious job either. She is not marrying him for his money...

Maybe he is more red pill than you think. Typically guys who date women out of their league are either the super nice I will do anything for you, have money, or are actually red pill guys. Once kids come around, most women won't leave until much later in life. So I imagine it lasts 15-20 years till she starts feeling her age...
It's not bad money for 28 years old even in NYC, and he lives in a suburb 60 miles north. He only works in the city. I do think he'll be well on his way to 6 figures and beyond within another 3-5 years.

But anyway, he's not red pill at all. Just trust me on this one. Because of our long time friendship and his loyalty as a friend to me, he is the ONLY blue pill friend I kept around through the years. The other 4 or 5 guys I consider friends are all red pilled. But IF she is a predatory female, he's dead meat.
 
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I think what you can do is buy him one or two red pill books on managing a marriage. Wrap it up and give it personally to him as his wedding gift.

He's not going to suddenly dump the woman now because you have some theoretical objections about what she might do.

As you give him the book, tell him that in today's climate, marriage is very difficult and complicated for two people to manage for a lifetime and that you only want to see his marriage flourish. He should read this book. There's a lot of good knowledge in it.

Or you can say something to that effect. Whatever you say, just make sure it is directed at HELPING the marriage not breaking it down.
I won't even go this far. I'm not going to utter a single word to him. It's not my place. He'd be confused even by a gesture like this. This discussion was just for this forum because it has all the telltale signs of a horrifying ending.

This may be a shock to you self-described redpill superheroes, but happiness is subjective. Some people LOVE to eat pig ears. I tried it once, never again.

You gain neither credibility nor self respect when you put down somebody else's subjective description of whatever floats their boat.

Here's some red pill advice:

Live and Let Live.

It's your job as a human to choose people to hang with, build relationships with, make a family with that resonate with your worldviews.

You gain nothing by spending your energy pointing out how wrong everybody is.
Can you read bro? You're often condescending in your replies and now you're strawmanning what I said. I didn't "put him down" or say he was "wrong" for what he's doing. I've stated multiple times I'm not going to say a damn word to him. This is an internal discussion on a private forum on a community of like-minded people, because I've seen this script play out over and over and over again around me. Nearly ever man I've ever known who bought into this happy wife, happy life crap had his life burned to the ground, and I'm able to point that out without putting anyone down.

So here's some advice for you, go read about ego investments and come back to me. And understand I am concerned because this dude is investing A LOT right now.

Agree with the last part. People think they need a butt load of money to live happily. This is why I have adopted a minimalistic lifestyle. Buy as little as possible. Only the bare bones necessities. I have 2-3 things that I treat myself on (clothes, cars, technology). My house is for the most part literally empty (obviously I have a bed, and couch etc, but 80% less than the average place). And That the way I like it. Clean, minimal, some nicely framed art, thats it. It looks like a cool post-modern house. Plus saving becomes so easy once you dont buy needless garbage. The money just stays in your bank, and you can use it to do better things like travel, and go to cool places.

I forget where I heard it but this quote sums up my perspective on consumerism: "Dont buy things, buy experiences."

I want to work as little as possible in my life, and get by comfortably with security. Not because I am lazy, but simply because I want to do other hobbies like write my novels, and continue my youtube channel. This will become increasingly hard as I become a professor, however. BUT I enjoy teaching, and I enjoy academics, so I dont really see it as "work"
You and me both dude. This friend of mine has often responded with bewilderment and confusion as I tell him my travel stories. I tell him it makes me feel far more alive and far more masculine than any corporate job ever could. He responds with envy and tells me he'd do it if it weren't for the 40 years of corporate life ahead of him...

Yeah bro you are not worried about him, you're jealous. In fact if he broke up with his fiancé before the wedding you would be happy.
That last part is not true.

If she is actually right for him, godspeed. I just wish he was more prepared for the worst, because if it is to be he's never gonna see it coming. Let's hope she's not already laughing her way to the bank.
 
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You mentioned that this was a good guy and a good friend since you were 12, so in my opinion, it's your responsibility as a good friend to speak your mind to an "extent", let me explain.

- When I invite people over to drink, party, and watch something on TV.....if I THINK (which is my personal insecurity) that they are drunk, I ask them (not tell or demand, just ask) that they hang out for a little while longer, eat something, and let the BUZZ cool down.

- That's my JOB as a friend, it's not to be your Daddy, it's just to look out for you as a Friend if I personally feel you might be (not 100% sure, but just a possibility) headed into dangerous territory.

- But if they choose not to stay and decide to leave, I just tell them to be careful because we've been drinking/partying, the cops are always out, and I don't want to see them get any DUIs!

So with that being said, if you personally feel (fvck what someone on this forum says) that your good friend MIGHT be (you aren't 100% sure, but there's a possibility) headed into some sort of dangerous territory.....just take him to the side and have a convo. A light convo. That's it. Tell him you have been his boy since you guys were 12 years old and are just looking out for him, that's all. Nothing more to it.

You see it's those types of friends I like having around. Now, even after you warn me of whatever I'm about to do, at the end of the day, I'm still going to do whatever the fvck TENACITY wants to do lol.

However, if all hell breaks loose and I know my boy warned me about the shyt upfront....and I just didn't listen...it would make me APPRECIATE my boy even more.
Listen b-dawg, the reason you feel that way is because you are a red pilled, analytical, logical man with sharp critical thinking skills. You're rigid, jaded, and skeptical - much like me. The good news on that is you're not likely to be hurt much more in your life because you'll keep a healthy distance.

My friend is not you and I. He's stubborn, naive, loyal, and vulnerable. And without going over 15 years of history, he is the perennial nice guy and very thick headed when it comes to this sort of thing. Out of the 5 or so guys I consider close male friends, he's the only blue piller I kept around because of his loyalty to me as a friend (dude gets me family/friend discounts on Marriotts all over the country). I could have the conversation you alluded to with any of the other 4, but this dude may actually take offense. So I will keep my mouth shut and wish him luck from a distance (we don't even live in the same state, so I see him about twice a year.)

If in 10 years when he's 39 and gets blindsided in court, and is staring at this pistol on the table, I'll be a phone call away. And we'll stay up til 5 am taking shots and I'll tell him everything I learned from trusting a woman. Chances are I'll be a lot wiser by then, and he'll be a lot more receptive to the message then than he is now. So regardless of the nimrods claiming I'm putting him down, I'm actually not. I'm prepared to forever hold my peace, unless he needs me later.
 

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So here's some advice for you, read posts more carefully.
Maybe you should take your own advice. I'd be happy to help. This is what I said:

You gain neither credibility nor self respect when you put down somebody else's subjective description of whatever floats their boat.
See the bold? That's the verb.

See the underline? That's the object. Notice what the object is? It is a DESCRIPTION. Not a person.

You were, and are, putting down people's DESCRIPTIONS (as reported by you) of what they consider, or hope to be, a happy life.

Let's recap just to make sure we're on the same page.

He sent you an invitation.

It wasn't your cup of tea.

You described that invitation here in NEGATIVE TERMS.

This has all the telltale signs of the Beta Bux story.
You were, (as I said above) putting down HIS DESCRIPTION of a happy life.

And in case you are too busy looking for strawmen that aren't there, let me reiterate (and heck I'll even EXPAND on it, just for you) my advice:

You gain neither credibility nor self respect NOR HAPPINESS when you put down somebody else's subjective description of whatever floats their boat.

And since I'm in a good mood, I'll even through in some EXTRA ADVICE, for FREE!

Nearly ever man I've ever known who bought into this happy wife, happy life crap had his life burned to the ground
I would suggest your experiences are not statistically similar to the general population.

Therefore, you might want to find some new people to hang with.

BUT, that's your choice. Good luck!
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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BlueAlpha1

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Maybe you should take your own advice. I'd be happy to help. This is what I said:



See the bold? That's the verb.

See the underline? That's the object. Notice what the object is? It is a DESCRIPTION. Not a person.

You were, and are, putting down people's DESCRIPTIONS (as reported by you) of what they consider, or hope to be, a happy life.

Let's recap just to make sure we're on the same page.

He sent you an invitation.

It wasn't your cup of tea.

You described that invitation here in NEGATIVE TERMS.



You were, (as I said above) putting down HIS DESCRIPTION of a happy life.

And in case you are too busy looking for strawmen that aren't there, let me reiterate (and heck I'll even EXPAND on it, just for you) my advice:

You gain neither credibility nor self respect NOR HAPPINESS when you put down somebody else's subjective description of whatever floats their boat.

And since I'm in a good mood, I'll even through in some EXTRA ADVICE, for FREE!



I would suggest your experiences are not statistically similar population to the general population.

Therefore, you might want to find some new people to hang with.

BUT, that's your choice. Good luck!
Thanks for re-affirming that you're a condescending gasbag. :up:

You were, (as I said above) putting down HIS DESCRIPTION of a happy life.
No, I plainly wasn't. If he's right and I'm wrong, then by golly, good for my friend for defying the odds. There's just a great chance he won't. See what I did there?

I would suggest your experiences are not statistically similar population to the general population.
I would suggest that you're entitled to your opinion, but not your own facts. It IS indeed a fact that 52% of marriages end in divorce, and nearly 80% of them are initiated by women. So there is a GREATER chance of this failing than of it succeeding. Doesn't mean I'm rooting for it to fail, or putting him down personally. It means I wish he was coming better prepared to this agreement. When a man starts talking about "the rest of our lives together" with the modern day western woman, he's walking a trapeze blindfolded.

But please, tell me more about cultural relativism. Because you know, divorce rape is just like my opinion, man.
 

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Thanks for re-affirming that you're a condescending gasbag.
No problem. I've found that people who can't argue well tend to switch to insults rather quickly.

But please, tell me more about cultural relativism.
Be happy to.

Cultural relativism is the principle that an individual's beliefs and activities should be understood by others in terms of that individual's own culture.

It was established as axiomatic in anthropological research by Franz Boas in the first few decades of the 20th century and later popularized by his students. Boas first articulated the idea in 1887: "...civilization is not something absolute, but ... is relative, and ... our ideas and conceptions are true only so far as our civilization goes."[1] However, Boas did not coin the term.

The first use of the term recorded in the Oxford English Dictionary was by philosopher and social theorist Alain Locke in 1924 to describe Robert Lowie's "extreme cultural relativism", found in the latter's 1917 book Culture and Ethnology.[2] The term became common among anthropologists after Boas' death in 1942, to express their synthesis of a number of ideas Boas had developed. Boas believed that the sweep of cultures, to be found in connection with any sub species, is so vast and pervasive that there cannot be a relationship between cultures and races.[3] Cultural relativism involves specific epistemological and methodological claims. Whether or not these claims necessitate a specific ethical stance is a matter of debate. This principle should not be confused with moral relativism.
 
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No problem. I've found that people who can't argue well tend to switch to insults rather quickly.
Come on b-dawg, that wasn't much of an insult. It was the most G-rated thing I could come up with. Actually your posts are usually interesting. I just thought you were a little condescending at first and misjudged what I was trying to say about my friend, but no worries :cool:
 

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I believe in love at first sight. I believe in pair bonding and true love. I believe the ideal match exists. I believe fate can bring two people together.

I don't believe marriage laws allow a man to maintain all of these wonderful things. It's been reverse engineered to destroy such things by virtue of guaranteeing her share on your behalf. This was all because of Beta male pvssies who were willing to do anything to get laid, only to not get laid.

Once you find her, dating your perfect match is like playing in the World Series of Poker. It's not all buddy-buddy. For the most part you have two equals who are in a match of wits with their hearts (and finances) on the line. You periodically cash in your winnings. Therefore, you can't just show your cards to her and keep the game at a high level. Marriage is saying "I trust her to let me win sometimes so I can let her see my cards always, while she keeps her hand concealed".
 

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To be honest with you this is the sort of guy that actually has relatively successful marriages. Even if she goes bad there's a decent chance she'll keep him around as a meal ticket and not file for divorce. If she nags he won't mind and if she cheats he won't find out.

Actually that's what makes some of us really bad options for LTR/Marriage, we won't put up with what other guys will in a relationship. My guess is that a decent chunk of that 25% of men that file for divorce other than the pure adulterous men are ppl like us that bailed on nagging disrespectful disloyal wives fairly quickly
This is an excellent point and let me expand on this further.

So folks know I came here with anger issues over not being able to find the "ideal girl" that I wanted, right? It was basically the girl without any "problems", problems being one or more of the following flaws:

- Some weight issues now or approaching weight issues
- Attitude/personality related issues
- She already has kids
- She has bad finances
- She has lukewarm/flakey interest


And the REALITY is that every single girl in this market, is going to have at least ONE of these problems because the women without at least ONE of these problems are NOT on the market anymore. When I said the market was bad, I was telling the truth!

On TOP of this, when you are in a relationship with one of these women, you are going to have to drop most of the Sosuave/I'm The Prize shyt and are going to have to turn into a guy that can tolerate a lot of bullshyt from the woman in particular. It's why women routinely say, "I need a man that can HANDLE ME!" The chick already knows she's a piece of work to deal with and it takes a patient man with a lot of tolerance to put up with her shyt.

- Blue Pill men usually do better at relationships than Red Pill men do because they can put up with and tolerate the chick's "shyt".

- Whereas Red Pill men do better at dating/spinning plates than Blue Pill men, because Red Pill men know how to push a woman's attraction buttons to get them to fvck, but Red Pill men are NOT willing to put up with the chick's bullshyt. Thus, the Red Pill guy just NEXTS her and goes onto the next chick, who if she didn't have the flaw the previous girl had, she has one of the OTHER flaws on the flaw list I listed above. So it's a never ending cycle with the Red Pill guy and women are like a revolving door.
 

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- Whereas Red Pill men do better at dating/spinning plates than Blue Pill men, because Red Pill men know how to push a woman's attraction buttons to get them to fvck, but Red Pill men are NOT willing to put up with the chick's bullshyt. Thus, the Red Pill guy just NEXTS her and goes onto the next chick, who if she didn't have the flaw the previous girl had, she has one of the OTHER flaws on the flaw list I listed above. So it's a never ending cycle with the Red Pill guy and women are like a revolving door.
I don't like labels, so I wouldn't describe myself as Blue Pill or Red Pill. I do believe in seeing reality as it is though, so I guess that leans me to the Red Pill side. But I did 95% of my dating before I had ever even heard of the manosphere, so it's not like I swallowed some truth the internet had to offer. Anyway, my point:

I am definitely not one to put up with "a woman's shyt". I think in the time and place where I grew up, we were raised to have self respect and not let women control you, not to let her cut your balls off and carry them around in her purse. But despite this, I wouldn't describe the women in my life as a revolving door, I've had some pretty long relationships (10+ years). Unless that door is revolving very slowly lol. Point is, you don't have to be a doormat to have a good LTR. Respect yourself, and give respect to her. Probably not popular advice around here, but that's what I've learned.
 
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