"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So apparently using online communication is taboo?

Flabbergasped?

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I invited a friend to an event through an online message (facebook, if it matters) because I lost her number and I don't see her much during the day. All my friends are giving me sh!t tho, saying it will be seen as an act of cowardice and she will be turned off. They've gone as far as to say I should find the number/find her, tell her the message was a prank by a roommate, and ask directly. Is any of this warranted, or are they just being tools?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Did you at least ask for her to give you her number again?
 

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All of you who use...

1. MySpace
2. Facebook
3. Friendster
4. Match.com
5. Adult Personal Ads
6. Whatever else is out there...

As a means to meet women ARE pathetic... IMHO


Meet women like most normal men, go to a bar and sarge drunk chicks :rockon:


-Cod3r
 

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Cod3r said:
All of you who use...

1. MySpace
2. Facebook
3. Friendster
4. Match.com
5. Adult Personal Ads
6. Whatever else is out there...

As a means to meet women ARE pathetic... IMHO


Meet women like most normal men, go to a bar and sarge drunk chicks :rockon:


-Cod3r
Totally agree other than sarging on drunk chicks.. I prefer a challenge, not a one sided victory. There are some that will swear to myspace or online resources because it's easy and doesn't require you to confront someone. It's only delaying the inevitable. If you want quality girls and you want to make yourself look like a quality guy, then approach women in real life. Besides, why are you thinking so much about this girl? If you're putting your mind to one girl for an extended period of time, it's obviously not going to work.
 

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^ Yeah the drunk sarging comment was subtle sarcasm...

I prefer them high and/or very aloof ;) <-- Again joke, i'm in a funny mood today


-Cod3r
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yea, I guess I'm getting kinda one-itis, but it'll pass in like a few minutes.

By the way, I'm not using it to meet people. I already know this person, I'm just using it as a means of communication.
 

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Two months ago I would have said the same thing as coder but my younger brother found a HB on myspace and they're dating pretty seriously now. She's cute too.

BUT he was on myspace for awhile trying to get girls with no luck. Took a break. Came back on with pics from his surfing adventure and got a ton of responses when he messaged with some silly "diver looking for deep sea aquatic love."
 
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